elisee8d Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 (edited) I'm 19 years old, and have recently started seeing a man that's 26. I don't have much experience with dating older men, and I really just want to have some sort of idea as to when he's expecting more from me. I know not to go by any rules of when it's "expected" but we haven't done anything more than kiss and get more intense with that and I guess figuring out what each other likes without going below the waist... so I don't know when or how to go about taking that up a notch before we start having sex. Should I wait until things get more serious to have sex with him? Wait until we start officially seeing each other? I'm recently out of a somewhat long term relationship, and he said he wants to take things slow for that reason.. I'm not sure if that means sexually as well, but like I said, I have practically no experience with older guys and I just really need opinions on all of this. He seems to really respect me and doesn't seem like the type who would just be talking to me to slee with me.. but we do have that 7 year age gap, so I'm sure he's not okay with kissing for much longer than past our 4th hangout which will be the next time I see him.. would you think he's expecting me to start doing more (more meaning other than kissing) the next time I see him at his house? Edited June 19, 2012 by elisee8d
Algermas Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I'm 19 years old, and have recently started seeing a man that's 26. I don't have much experience with dating older men, and I really just want to have some sort of idea as to when he's expecting more from me. I know not to go by any rules of when it's "expected" but we haven't done anything more than kiss and get more intense with that and I guess figuring out what each other likes without going below the waist... so I don't know when or how to go about taking that up a notch before we start having sex. Should I wait until things get more serious to have sex with him? Wait until we start officially seeing each other? I'm recently out of a somewhat long term relationship, and he said he wants to take things slow for that reason.. I'm not sure if that means sexually as well, but like I said, I have practically no experience with older guys and I just really need opinions on all of this. He seems to really respect me and doesn't seem like the type who would just be talking to me to slee with me.. but we do have that 7 year age gap, so I'm sure he's not okay with kissing for much longer than past our 4th hangout which will be the next time I see him.. would you think he's expecting me to start doing more (more meaning other than kissing) the next time I see him at his house? That depends entirely on if he's a man or a wuss. Based on the fact that he hasn't tried anything so far I'd say he probably won't initiate anything this time.
Author elisee8d Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 That depends entirely on if he's a man or a wuss. Based on the fact that he hasn't tried anything so far I'd say he probably won't initiate anything this time. Do you think he's expecting or at least wanting ME to do it then? I don't wanna come off as a prude to him, especially since I'm younger.. but then again since he said he wants to take things slow, I don't wanna look like I'm completely dismissing that..
Algermas Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Do you think he's expecting or at least wanting ME to do it then? I don't wanna come off as a prude to him, especially since I'm younger.. but then again since he said he wants to take things slow, I don't wanna look like I'm completely dismissing that.. Honestly that depends on the guy, you'd have to describe him for me ( us ). Is he a bit of a ladies man or is he a shy nerd who doesn't really know what to do around women?
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