barriob Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Ijust found out my ex has a new gf. I feel so hurt. :/ any help?
Mack05 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 yes go to therapy because you ignore all advice you get here.. 2
geegirl Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 B, every time you posted, I used wonder how in heaven's name is she ever going to rid herself of this man. A few posters said I was too harsh on you but I wanted you to open your eyes. Now, the truth is even harsher than what I've always tried to tell you. You've hung on for nearly a year to a man that told you directly he didn't want a relationship with you and demoted you to a fvvk buddy. It was hard for you to grasp that truth. But now that you've found this out, this is truly a blessing B, as hard and painful as it is, you'll see in time that this is what will set you free. I never knew how you'd be able to let go, and now you have to, as painful as it is. I'm sorry you are hurting. Know that if you hung on to hope, your pain would have been indefinite. Now, the pain will be temporary. In time you will let go and move on with your life. You've wasted a year on nothing, now it's time for you to start focusing on yourself. I hope you're seeking therapy and making changes in your life. Eating good and exercising is great but there's more work to be done. Clinging for a year onto a man that clearly didn't want an R and one that kept treating you badly is a clear sign that this is not about your ex but more so your emotional and mental state. Start working on you and you'll find yourself seeking better experiences. Post here and vent. Stay strong.
Author barriob Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Yeah (: geegirl, I finally decided I need to move o. With my life. And teah I do see it as a blessng in disguise. I dong ever wanna talk to him. I feel so used and I cant believe he ignored me. It all makes sense now. He is juat a jerk and I cant change tgat.
geegirl Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Yeah (: geegirl, I finally decided I need to move o. With my life. And teah I do see it as a blessng in disguise. I dong ever wanna talk to him. I feel so used and I cant believe he ignored me. It all makes sense now. He is juat a jerk and I cant change tgat. All you can do now is move forward. In time you will see this as a blessing. It's going to be hard now, but the good thing is that he won't be bothering you anymore. His non-contact is going to allow you to heal because I don't think you could have done it on your own.
LovelyDaze Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 That right there is a pure indication that he isn't right for you. Let go of this past year of hurts, better yet, grieve through them and never ever ever contact him again. If he contacts you first, IGNORE him yourself. You are better than being someone's "go-to" person and just for sex at that. Get some great books on breakups and definitely seek counseling if you think that you can't bare this painful news on your own. They will help you work through it and you will come out the other side so much stronger. Hindsight is 20/20. You will see what we "outsiders" see in awhile...
Author barriob Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 That right there is a pure indication that he isn't right for you. Let go of this past year of hurts, better yet, grieve through them and never ever ever contact him again. If he contacts you first, IGNORE him yourself. You are better than being someone's "go-to" person and just for sex at that. Get some great books on breakups and definitely seek counseling if you think that you can't bare this painful news on your own. They will help you work through it and you will come out the other side so much stronger. Hindsight is 20/20. You will see what we "outsiders" see in awhile... Thanks so much. I just feel like its a big slap in the face.
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