no_clue Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Ive been talking to a woman from online and she is older by 6 years, im 19. Shes given me her number and weve been texting awhile weve got a few things in common n shes a tomboy type. I asked if she wanted to come over and play games and she said we will hangout when were both off work. She works literally like 100 yards from me and I mentioned how someone told me they were hiring a few months ago and that I should've applied so I could meet her earlier, ive also been looking for another job. She said they were hiring again, I asked if she could put in a word but she already did for someone at my job on a different shift. I want to meet her but idk if I should wait til she comes over or grab a application and chat with her. I ask because im a nervous wreck and I dont want to make a bad first impression. I tend to be shy and I think I have social anxiety disorder, when I get used to a girl and am confident they like me I open up alot more. So should I risk meeting her soon and potentially freezing up coming off as awkward. Or should I just wait til she comes.over to my place and.i can be in my comfort zone and probably be a little more relaxed.The drawback to this though is it might be a couple Weeks and.i dont want her to lose.interest in the meantime. I really need a woman and I am lonely please any insight is appreciated.
Seneca Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Relax man. And try not to show off your neediness it will just push her away. Plus, don't suggest working with her as a co-worker. That is creeper status. You're young so you have plenty of time to get a woman. Truth is you don't need one. It's a false belief to think you do... You should work more on your inner game of being okay with being by yourself and not caring. When you come from a place of neediness. It will show and it will repel women away fast. In my opinion you did great by inviting her to come to your place and hang out. Just leave that invite out. If she comes over, cool. If not, that's okay too because there are other women out there who will...
Author no_clue Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 She didnt think it was creepy she replied with a smiley face and said they were still hiring when I suggested I work there so I couldve met her earlier. She proceeded to send a long text message about the details. When I said id probably do 2nd shift so I could have time to sleep normally she said they would work with me on 1st shift since I have a second job and she sounded like she wanted.me to try 1st. Its not that I need a woman I really want one. And im already still talking to a girl I had sex with if i wanted to i could probably.be with her but shes not my type and im trying to distance myself from her without.being an *******. I didnt text her at all today we were texting all the time since I got her number. Does it matter? Should I keep texting her everyday so she doesnt lose interest or is it cool to just text every now and then?
amantis Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 i think that you should date people of your own age and have fun . she is a bit old for you . im 27 and i cant imagine dating girls less then 23 . You are young , have fun .
Seneca Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Does it matter? Should I keep texting her everyday so she doesnt lose interest or is it cool to just text every now and then? Well I'm no text master. Most women text me first and then I keep my replies short because I don't want to spend all day texting... But I think texting every now and then should be fine.
Author no_clue Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 I can never relate to girls my age they always seem dumb or immature. I know i am not the most mature person in a few ways like with women, but i think i am more mature than alot of people my age. I have been with a couple 25 year olds already ive also always hung out with older people and get along with them more i think. Yeah she only has texting, and i usually let girls text me but she seems like she wants me to go after her and im asking mostly all the questions she doesnt ask many back, but i assume shes interested if shes talking to me still. I want to flirt with her and she how she reacts but i dont want to push her away cause she said she was not easy to get naked then i said she was the one talking about it. She replied she could be a bit of a perv, so i asked if she was a freak to then n she said yeah.
amantis Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Ok , when i talk about age im not saying that she is better than you . My point is , even if you date her , after 4 years she is near the 30s , from my experience , when they get to that age , they become fking crazy Im now im 27 and my ex wife 31 , i know what im talking about . They change , and most of them just want to be alone and you are the one getting hurt OR she is older than you and you start thinking , why im dating her and im not dating girls near my age who want to have fun and not staying home all the time and so many more things.
Author no_clue Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Should i ask if she wants to hang out this weekend on her day off, even though i have to work at night
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