jobaba Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Obviously, LS (and every other internet forum) is a self-selected sample of people and isn't a cross-section of the public. But rather than look down on the people here who have knowledge and experience with relationships, I think people should be more concerned about having their minds influenced by all the angry/hurt/sad/screwed up people who post here. The biggest danger for every poster is that his/her negative viewpoints might be reinforced. Absolutely. I used to think LS was filled with petty shallow women and bitter dateless men, but things seem to be evening out a bit. Some of those women don't post as much anymore and the bitter guys, when you get to know them, you see real people. I'm a real person! I drive a Honda!
snug.bunny Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Nope, this is the real world: I love songs that carry so many different meanings, and, are left to be discovered by each individual. 1
Els Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I'm the opposite. I'm pretty sure I come across like a misogynistic douchebag here some of the times. In real life, I have more good female friends than good male friends and you'd be hard pressed to find a nice woman who knows me who didn't think I was a good guy. It's true. It's easy to vent online, and MANY men harbor at least a little bitterness in them. Women are generally unaware of this. But, me and my guy pals talk about this stuff, some of whom have done really well with women. I'm not sure why people hold back online ... to protect the reputation of your silly internet handle? Lol. I think the bolded is the issue, tbh. Birds of a feather flock together, for a large part. I absolutely know women who display significant bitterness when they get together and talk about men, and men are unaware of it. Doesn't mean that all do. Also, I guess it depends on what you define as bitterness. To a minor degree, I would wager that everyone has felt 'bitter' towards SOMEthing before. But the degree some posters display here.. it can't possibly be healthy. They really don't sound happy - at all. If they are, well, more power to them, and if they aren't, they're just sabotaging themselves. Personally, I think you're okay most of the time. You were definitely okay when you were with your gf. Then you decided to break up, and reverted to your old state, as I feared.
january2011 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 (edited) I think that LS actually is part of the real world.. It's up to you to pick out the parts of LS that fits into your situation. I think that most advice gets ignored.. IRL and on LS and the advice that doesn't is the advice that rings a bell.. makes sense to us or is just what the Dr. ordered. When I need an answer on LS I usually hit the search and query for it, ignoring all or most of it till I find just the right advice I needed at that moment and then I try and use it.. I do think LS has more trash in it than I see IRL though.. more trolls and more drama and more people who are hating, just acting out trying to hurt people.. Art pretty much nailed what I wanted to say when you brought this up in the other thread, Hokie: LS is not the whole world but it is part of the real world. In as much as the posters are real and their thoughts (conveyed in their posts) are real. And if we are going with the "perception is reality" viewpoint, then I suggest that everything is as real (or not) as we individually perceive it. As an aside, on first reading your OP, my initial thought was that it sounded like a backhanded compliment to those you consider sophisticated, mature and self-aware. However, I'd like to think that you're just going through a period of reflection and contemplationg - trying to re-align your worldview based on what you're witnessing on LS and what you're experiencing in your own world offline. And while I'm sure each of us would like to think that we are special and unique on LS, I suspect that there's some kind of fallacy at play here - that is, we are not the special snowflakes we think we are, or even that you think we are (with all due respect). Edited June 19, 2012 by january2011 2
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