Confusedcompletely Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 We've been broken up for 3 months now and I went NC from day one, haven't broken it once. I thought I was getting better because about a month ago I felt indifferent to everything for a couple of weeks. It felt really good to think I had moved on but then suddenly it hit me all over again! Nothing happened to cause this, I just woke up one day and felt horrible...but it's not fading. I feel like I'm going backwards. Has this happened to anyone else? If so, how did you get back to feeling alright with everything?
edwards99 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 yeah I felt the same way I think it's just part of healing process..peaks and valleys and it becomes to be less valleys.. less and less .. on days like that I'd try and find the bad things about the relationship..think about why its gone..sometime life breaks it down..not so much so you can fix it ..so it can be built a different way..better stronger...but it's hard to see it now I know...good luck buddy
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 yeah I felt the same way I think it's just part of healing process..peaks and valleys and it becomes to be less valleys.. less and less .. on days like that I'd try and find the bad things about the relationship..think about why its gone..sometime life breaks it down..not so much so you can fix it ..so it can be built a different way..better stronger...but it's hard to see it now I know...good luck buddy Hey edwards99...I just had to say that you seem to be doing much better than you seemed in earlier posts. This is great advice! How are things?
Nohbody Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Unfortunately, it may be day-to-day for a while. I'm a giant baby, and still not over my nonsense after a year. I think the best thing you can do is attempt to journal your thoughts, find the positive and focus on that. It sounds hokey. It is. We all seem to fall back down sometimes. You aren't alone.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 You may be thinking about them but at lest you are not calling them. Time will always make things a little easier but the best way to move on is to simply meet someone else.
jackiki Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 With or without a break up there are always days where people feel down. I believe you should try to focus on the real causes of your sad feelings. It can simply be due to something else, but since you have been focusing on the relationship decay as the core cause of unhappiness, the mind can simply trick you and draw that association everytime you feel unhappy.
Coffee20 Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 it's the same for me, a few days I am just fine and then I wake up and I feel like a wreck again, I am crying in my room and feeling lonely, but it's getting better, I think
no_more_tries Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Looks like a lot of us can relate. I can go a few days, or weeks. Then suddenly, I'm cycling through hurt, anger, desperation, freedom, wanting, not wanting, and missing all over again. Sometimes, several times a day. :/ We were invested. It's hard to just "be ok" when you have been so invested, and it disappears. Even if they have made it look ungodly easy. Hold on for the stronger moments!
CopingGal Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 We've been broken up for 3 months now and I went NC from day one, haven't broken it once. I thought I was getting better because about a month ago I felt indifferent to everything for a couple of weeks. It felt really good to think I had moved on but then suddenly it hit me all over again! Nothing happened to cause this, I just woke up one day and felt horrible...but it's not fading. I feel like I'm going backwards. Has this happened to anyone else? If so, how did you get back to feeling alright with everything? This happened to me today. I cried a lot today to the point of headache and a slight stomach ache. Then I asked myself- why am I crying about him? And I stopped.
Ninja'sHusband Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 If you aren't religious, just ignore this post please, or maybe replace "God" with "Truth" or something you believe is good and constant in the world. For me I had a big epiphany in highschool at the end of a relationship. I was reading some prayers from my religion. "There is none other God but thee" I was worshipping my girlfriend. I had raised her up to a point that wasn't human. I had put more trust and admiration in her than *ANY* human deserves. All things in this world are transient. The only thing worthy of attachment is God because God is eternal. I finally started saying this obligatory prayer every day, like were are supposed to in my religion. I bear witness, O my God, that Thou hast created me to know Thee and to worship Thee. I testify, at this moment, to my powerlessness and to Thy might, to my poverty and to Thy wealth. There is none other God but Thee, the Help in Peril, the Self-Subsisting. I stopped worshipping my old girlfriend and vowed never to do that to anyone again. Blind love is a very dangerous thing... The prayer also helps you submit yourself to whatever happens, that things will turn out for the best even if it seems to not be the case at the moment. phew, just writing this helps me out right now I've honestly faded in my dedication to my own religion...and am going through a divorce. I've only recently started saying this prayer again. I don't know why it took me so long when it was the only thing that got me through that last break up 20 years ago =\
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