california-love Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 So basically I met this girl a few weeks ago and we hit it off unbelievably well and undoubtedly moved too fast. We've spent all of our free time together, have been intimate several times and even had a few play dates with our kids (too soon, but we both were comfortable with it and haven't shown affection in front of the kids). Here's the problem: she's made it pretty clear that she's not completely over her ex. They dated for several years and broke up a few months ago. She says that when she's with me, that's where she wants to be but that her heart is not ready to open it's doors to another. She says that she's sorry she can't JUST YET, but she loves what we have. She texts me talking about how much she wants me and how sexy I am, so I'm a little confused. Am I filling a void right now or is there a chance of this thing working out? Should I ride it out and enjoy our time together (which is amazing) or cut ties now and avoid getting even more hurt in the future?
Author california-love Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Has anyone ever moved from one long relationship into another with any success? I'd be interested to hear what it took to make it work...
daphne Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 She's filling a void. Most rebounds don't work out. Some do, but they are in the minority. She shouldn't be trying for a relationship until she's ready to open up. It's up to you if you're ok with taking a high risk for possible low reward in this. I wouldn't do it.
cerridwen Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I agree with Daphne. She's been honest about her capacity for a relationship right now. Take her at her word and try not to invest so heavily in her words "just yet." I understand they sound promising but factoring everything else in, I'd say this is a long shot.
LittleTiger Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Well I'm going to disagree with the other opinions Life is short! If you are enjoying this relationship and can accept it for what it is, then do so. It might lead to something, and then again it might not - at least you are having fun/excitement/company/sex/(whatever else). Sure, you might get your heart broken - but that's a risk we take every single time we allow another human being into our hearts - whether it is a friendship or a romance. Only you can decide what is most important to you - the 'reality of now' or the 'maybe of the future'. As far as going from one long term relationship in to another - yes, sometimes they are 'successful'. Does that mean 'until death do us part'? These days, most probably not, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy it while it lasts!
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