phil00 Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 I wish there was someone to move on. And if there's was, I wish I could learn the method. My ex broke up with me almost 2 years ago. It got pretty ugly. She had a rebound right after me, then started seeing someone pretty seriously right after that. As far as I knew they were still together. Fast forward to a month ago, and a drink text to her to see if she would be able to pick me up, to which she replied. Saw her for the first time in 2 years. She was so sweet and beautiful. Sje seemed very happy to see me, and if not for her friend that was with her, who knows what wouldve happened that night Then all of a sudden, she blocks me on her phone. Doesn't respond to emails, and I feel like I'm at square one.
Nohbody Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 It's been a year for me, and I"m still not over it. You aren't at square one, but it sucks all the same. I hope you can make the decision to leave her behind you. Even if you don't want to. She's part of your past. I hope you can live for the present and the future.
96nole Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 She's make it very clear she doesn't want you in her life. Stop wanting and hoping for someone that clearly doesn't want you. Step 1 for you to move on: delete her contact info from your phone. That way you won't text her again, even if you've been drinking. You move on by loving yourself. You love yourself by no longer sitting in pain. Why keep torturing yourself for someone who does not want you? You've wasted enough of your time on someone who isn't worth it. She may be pretty and sweet, but she isn't pretty and sweet towards you. It's time for you to make a choice between pain and happiness. Pain is dwelling on the past. Happiness is what you make of your future. It's been 2 years. How many more do you want to waste? If for some reason there is a miracle that she wants to be with you again, she will find you. But don't sit around hoping it happens. It may never happen. 2
Author phil00 Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Thank you for that. It was exactly what I wanted to hear. I guess I wanted to clarify my first post. We broke uo 2 years ago. She moved on really fast. It took me a while to get over it, but I got to a point where, yes, she was still in my thoughts once in a while, but I moved on. I had a life without her that was great. Everything was falling into place. I dated some, but no real connection. Then all of a sudden, we are in contact again for a brief moment, and it's like euphoria. We texted some, etc. Then, one of my last texts I get a message that I am blocked, then all the feelings I had when we first broke up come rushing back. I know I can get over it again, because I did it before when it was a "real" breakup. It's just tough.
Author phil00 Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Well I finally received a reply to an email I sent asking her why I was blocked. She replied she had no desire to keep an open line of communication with me, and that we had dated a long time ago, so please stop contacting her. This after 2 emails. In 2 weeks. I swear it wasn't this bad when we were going through it. But I have to respect her wishes.
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 Well I finally received a reply to an email I sent asking her why I was blocked. She replied she had no desire to keep an open line of communication with me, and that we had dated a long time ago, so please stop contacting her. This after 2 emails. In 2 weeks. I swear it wasn't this bad when we were going through it. But I have to respect her wishes. Wow! What a cold response... How are you doing after that? I'm at a point with my ex that she just won't respond to things here and there. But, always seems to show up after awhile with a "how are you" text, or "thinking of you" garbage. I actually told her to not contact me once after she had hurt my feelings really bad. But, it was rough not hearing from her. So, eventually I broke the NC for the 100th time. She has said, no to being together, but has never verbally said, no to contact. As a matter of fact, she plays the friend card too often. I don't consider us friends. One of my biggest fears has always been that she would request NC. I always thought that would devastate me and be a stiff blow to my entire being!! But, after reading your post, I almost think if she were to initiate NC, it would burn, but eventually save my life! It's almost like someone doing for you, what you may be to weak or confused to do for yourself. Which also applies to when they break up with you. It may be a gift!
neghitzbrah Posted June 20, 2012 Posted June 20, 2012 One of my biggest fears has always been that she would request NC. I always thought that would devastate me and be a stiff blow to my entire being!! I have to say that that would devastate me too. But I know my ex isn't strong enough to do that. She is the weaker one, and always has been. She always initiated the first text.. but I always bit and went all the way until we slept with each other... twice. It would've happened a third time but I didn't let it. She got with her ex boyfriend a month after we broke up and cheated on him twice!! That's with sex too. What a terrible girl. Move past them... there is a reason why you broke up. Realize this and it'll help you move on. There are so many people out there who you think are kind, beautiful, and love you back for who you are. It just takes time, patience, and a lot of adrenaline (for the gym )))) )
Author phil00 Posted June 20, 2012 Author Posted June 20, 2012 I have to admit the email was a little harsh.i don't think it was warranted to be phrased like that given the circumstance. And it's not like I lost a girlfriend. Guess if I am sad, it's because she sent the same type of email when we were going through this 2 years ago, and it's bringing back how I felt at that time, which was devastated.
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