confused0004 Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 Ok..my best friend of four years, just broke up with her boyfriend. About 2 months ago. And I tried to get them back together and stuff like that, but it just wasnt happening. Her boyfriend, annoyed me and I could't stand him anyway. But after talking to him online, we started to hang out and get closer. I asked my best friend, if she was cool with us being so close now, and she said it was cool.But I always feel like I'm sneaking around behind her back, because if she knew we really liked eachother, she might childishly spread rumors about me being a hoe or something. We just recently went to the movies, where we kissed. And I ddit mean to, but who does?! Its summer, and in 2 months i'll be going away to college, and I really cant have a boyfriend, so I told her ex that. But I cant help feeling attracted to him, and I like hanging out with him. So, I feel horrible, and I'm confused. Am I being a bad best friend to her? and leading this guy on?? Anything helpful would be nice, and even advice about dating your best friends ex boyfriend would be nice too...
supermom Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 There is an unwritten rule about this subject... My best friend and I would never date an ex boyfriend. I wouldn't.
dyinginside Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 I would agree with supermom, dating a best friend's ex is not a good idea. Most of the time it creates a bad situation.
miz_barby Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 That is WRONG!! I understand you were trying to get them back together but WHY on earth would you pursue him or allow him to pursue you online? You've been friends with this girl for so long doesn't that mean more to you than being "attracted" to a guy? Find someone who ISN'T an EX of your friend! I'm sorry but if she does spread rumors you will probably DESERVE it!!! Come on what girl would confess that it would hurt her, you should know better and care more! As they say EVERYONE knows that it is an unwritten rule! Walk away from this guy because when you're older you're gonna regret this badly, friendships last a lot longer than "attraction" or maybe if you are going to pursue this then she deserves someone who is a better less selfish friend than you! BTW I'm not bashing but everyone knows this is WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!
Stargazer25 Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 No, it most definatly ISN'T okay to date your BEST friends ex~ Girlfriends are often forever, and this guy as you've already said, isn't~ I would NEVER date, mess with or hook up with my girls ex!
thecake Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 and confused and you're sneaking around. There's your answer. I would never go out with a friends' ex...kind of gross if you think about it.
CurlyIam Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 You are jeopardizing a 4 years friendship for what? MAking out with a guy during the next 2 months? It is not even reasonable. Plus, there are so many persons with no values to respect out there, why on Earth would you ever go out with him? Now you're view as part of the competition, not as part of the allies. And that is sad, for life is hard enough without our putting an extra effort to it!
Girlie Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 As others have stated, the cardinal rule of friendship: Do not date your friend's exes. Bad idea.
yellowrose Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 Years ago my best friend dated my ex who I was still really hung up on. I never spoke to her again. -That was about 13 years ago. They broke up very soon after, so she lost both of us.
kellyp1 Posted June 30, 2005 Posted June 30, 2005 You are asking a question you seem to know the answer to. Don't do it!
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