Author SushiOji Posted June 21, 2012 Author Posted June 21, 2012 So I guess I will confront her about the new guy at some point tonight then
Peanut9330 Posted June 21, 2012 Posted June 21, 2012 There really is no method of getting her back all you can really do is tell her that you would like to work on getting back together and that you understand that she needs time. Then you take a step back let her process her emotions and let her make a decision without any pressure from you. However there is more than just getting her back she has to be able to forgive you and on top of that be able to trust you again. If she can’t let go than odds are even if you guys do get back together the relationship wont work. Think about it what kind of relationship it will be if she's constantly suspicious of what you’re doing and throwing the past in your face. You have to take all this into consideration before getting back together. It’s hard to mend a relationship when trust is broken, because trust is the foundation of all relationships and it will take effort from both of you to make it work.
Author SushiOji Posted June 22, 2012 Author Posted June 22, 2012 I think she is just trying to friendzone me, the first thing that came out of her mouth tonight was I feel bad that I'm using you for emotional support. I don't think I even need to bring up the other guy or anything I think I will just disappear and move on, I feel like she doesn't even care about the cheating so I'm done making up for something I will continue to work on and learn from.
2sunny Posted June 22, 2012 Posted June 22, 2012 I think she is just trying to friendzone me, the first thing that came out of her mouth tonight was I feel bad that I'm using you for emotional support. I don't think I even need to bring up the other guy or anything I think I will just disappear and move on, I feel like she doesn't even care about the cheating so I'm done making up for something I will continue to work on and learn from. A gal can't respect a man when he volunteers as her doormat. That's you... 1
Author SushiOji Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 A gal can't respect a man when he volunteers as her doormat. That's you... I am acting like a doormat huh? I need to back off now and see if she comes to me.
Author SushiOji Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 She called me today but I ignored and she left me a message telling me something funny. Should I just ignore this?
mtber75 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 I appreciate the replies, I can't just let her go because we still share an apartment and we will be having another year of graduate school together. I will continue to show her how much I care about her, should I bring up the dating and find out if she is single or will that come off as pushy/jealous? Let go dude! She's being nice because you guys are sharing a place together.
Author SushiOji Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I find myself feeling better now that I don't contact her and have decided to move on. However, she still calls (which I ignore) and comes over without me initiating anything. I think the more I pull away from her and blow her off the more interested she gets.
nofool4u Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 You know, I change my mind. This girl deserves someone who cheats. If she is going to disrespect the guy she is currently with to contact you, a cheater, then she deserves nothing short of a cheater. She deserves to get what she asks for.
louise_23 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I cheated on my ex and expressed how remorseful I was and I how I would never do it again. We tried to work it out for a month but she was still very hurt by what I did and ended up breaking it off despite how much effort I put into trying to make it work. She is dating another man but still tells people that she is single. Her mom loves me still despite what I've done and still wants us together. My ex asks mutual friends how I am doing and I decided to do NC because I am so confused as to what to do since I am the one that screwed up and I just think that she will just never get over what I did and come back to me that there is no point in me trying to push her away anymore or to get hurt anymore if I try to go after her again. She still contacts me and asks how I am and even invited me to dinner with friends last week in which I acted like myself and kept my distance from her. I still want to be with her so much but at this point I don't know what is the best route to take and it is driving me crazy. I told her before that I can't be her friend because it is not fair to my heart but she keeps coming back to me and I try to just ignore her but then I feel like I'm an ass for what I've done. Now, however, I realize that I have to be her friend if anything will ever come of this and that I should be grateful that she is even considering talking to me. I am talking to her on a consistent basis now but she has not brought up the relationship at all so I'm kinda in a state of depression everyday because I don't know what I'm doing. I still plan on doing little things for her everyday to show how much I care for her and putting aside my ego and my pride in order to rebuild my trust which is my number one priority right now but I don't know if I should express this to her or not? Any thoughts? if she means that much to you, what made you cheat? looking for an answer to this question as ill never understand why people do it if they really reckon they feel so bad about it.
Author SushiOji Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 if she means that much to you, what made you cheat? looking for an answer to this question as ill never understand why people do it if they really reckon they feel so bad about it. Mainly out of selfishness, I also felt neglected in the relationship and this other girl gave me a lot of attention and it felt good. Nothing to ever justify what I did though.
Joaquin Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 You know, I change my mind. This girl deserves someone who cheats. If she is going to disrespect the guy she is currently with to contact you, a cheater, then she deserves nothing short of a cheater. She deserves to get what she asks for. I get what your saying. But it's sad. I've seen some really nice girls turn this way after being cheated on. Its like they get really messed up and lose all sense of right and wrong, self respect, and basically themselves once they've been cheated on. She probably needs some kind if counselling. She may have been a stand up girl before the op screwed her over. Cheating really messes people up in all sorts of quite deep ways.
Author SushiOji Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I get what your saying. But it's sad. I've seen some really nice girls turn this way after being cheated on. Its like they get really messed up and lose all sense of right and wrong, self respect, and basically themselves once they've been cheated on. She probably needs some kind if counselling. She may have been a stand up girl before the op screwed her over. Cheating really messes people up in all sorts of quite deep ways. She's actually cheated before in the past and had been cheated on herself.
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