Bathroadman Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Hi I have been dumped by my girlfriend of 5 and a half years 6 days ago after a heated row. Since then she has not answered my calls or texts. I will admit I have text her well over 100 times and rang her many times too. I kept making the same mistake by not appreciating her and always wanting more. I realise that now. In the last two months we got stuck in a rut of not being really happy. She always treated me well and wanted me to love her more. I realise all my mistakes now. I don't know what to do as I love her very much and would love to be her boyfriend. I am so confused. The day before the split she said she couldn't live without me, she missed me and she was lonely. What to do???
Philosoraptor Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Right now you need to take a few breaths and realize she isn't perfect and you're not horrible. After you do that explain what you think you've done so wrong. Everyone feels unappreciated at times and there has to be more to it than that. Here's a tidbit of information. She has been thinking about leaving for a long time and that information yesterday about not being able to live without you was her one last gasp. It happens all the time when someone is trying to decide what is best for them. All I can tell you is right now stop messaging her, dust yourself off, and know you will get through this. So many here come in the same predicament and they pick themselves up, start taking care of themselves, treat themselves well, and move on.
Author Bathroadman Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 I will try to do that. It is very difficult to do. We had something unique together. We done everything together and I screwed up. I know that she does love me a lot and I think giving her space to think would be the best option. Then hopefully she will realise what we had. Why would she ignore me??
Philosoraptor Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I will try to do that. It is very difficult to do. We had something unique together. We done everything together and I screwed up. I know that she does love me a lot and I think giving her space to think would be the best option. Then hopefully she will realise what we had. Why would she ignore me?? You still have provided nothing regarding what you did. You are likely doing what the dumpee often does which is pin as much on themselves as possible while putting the ex on a pedestal. She is ignoring you simply because she doesn't want to contact you. If she did she would have answered by now.
Author Bathroadman Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 I always put going to the pub and clubbing ahead of spending time with her and I use to get angry because of this. I know what we had was great and you are right bombarding her with texts and calls. I will stop that. I don t want her to forget I want her back
Philosoraptor Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I always put going to the pub and clubbing ahead of spending time with her and I use to get angry because of this. I know what we had was great and you are right bombarding her with texts and calls. I will stop that. I don t want her to forget I want her back So you were just kinda doing what felt natural to you and she didn't like it? If your choice of lifestyles don't match maybe you weren't meant to be? How old are the two of you?
Author Bathroadman Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 We did go to the pub and clubbing a lot, but I wanted more. I realise that the times we did go out was enough for me. I am 22 and she 19. Recently her two best friends broke up with there long term boyfriends but I believe that they could not influence her decision
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