Mr Scorpio Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 So as I mentioned in a previous post, when I checked my e-mail this morning there was a status update from my ex. Just seeing her name on my screen was enough to quicken my heartbeat. But the worst part was the content: "[insert name] has finished finding all the gifts from our..." Her last name wasn't changed, but I think it is safe to say there is only one logical conclusion to the rest of that sentence. After twenty-years of friendship, twelve years of longing, two years of dating, and a few months of a "fling", the one who got away has finally gotten away. I always knew this day would come. I dreamt of her marrying someone else years before we even dated. But to know that the door is closed, especially after she sent me breadcrumbs in November. I did not need this information at this particular point in my life.
esteem-jam Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 So whats the conclusion of the sentence? Sorry, Im not american ;p You think its about engagement/marriage? Maybe it is some status update from some FB game like mafia or some farm game.
Leigh 87 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 but you might find love again. And be very happy. This must be hell for you - but there is light. You will feel sh*t for a while, but at least have foresight - you can surely SEE things will get better?
CopingGal Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Hi. I don't know what that quote means. Can you explain some more? And how was it that you got this email? Who sent it? Sorry for your pain.
Own Worst Enemy Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I get a million updates saying things like "Annie has lots of apples going spare and wants to share them with you" and "Andrew is giving away some pigs, why?" (good question, he's 34).... Could be anything. You're better off not knowing. I think the best advice though is from "it's called a break up because it's broken"... "he's dating someone else and it's Heidi Klum. Now deal with it". Wish I could take that advice too!!!
Author Mr Scorpio Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 but you might find love again. And be very happy. This must be hell for you - but there is light. You will feel sh*t for a while, but at least have foresight - you can surely SEE things will get better? Thank you for the reply, but no, I cannot see that things will get better. If I were in a "normal" position then perhaps. But I'm 32, I made $600 this month, I'm pursuing a degree that probably won't land me a job in this economy and I have a parent who lives off food-stamps. All I can surely see is more time passing. More summers of no-camping trips or festivals. More Christmases of having no one to shop for, no one shopping for me, and no money to spend on it all anyways. More birthdays spent studying. I know that thinking positive is the first step. A set-back like that just doesn't help.
Author Mr Scorpio Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Hi. I don't know what that quote means. Can you explain some more? And how was it that you got this email? Who sent it? Sorry for your pain. I myself cannot be 100% sure what the quote means. However, it seems to me there is only one logical conclusion, and is that she got married. I mean, during what other occassions do two people get gifts? Facebook itself sent me the e-mail. Why I've started receiving status updates from people is beyond me. For well over a year all I've received from that site was invites, and I wan't to continue to receive the invites. I guess all along I was refusing to delete her as a friend because I held out some foolish hope -- despite being dumped twice -- that there could be a reconciliation. Even if I do delete her as a friend, I assume she'll still show up in the "people you might know" section. It just kills me. I had a crush on this girl 20 years ago. She was the only person who went out of her way to give me attention. She was my first and only relationship. We never fought. We we're compatable on every level. Even last November she sent me a 'breadcrumb' e-mail talking about how much she was thinking about/missing me and so on and so forth. I guess there is nothing to do but sweep up the pieces and keep on going.
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Maybe now you will delete her... No new contacts = no new hurts... Chin up Scorpio.. things will get better and you will wind back up on top again..
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Even if I do delete her as a friend, I assume she'll still show up in the "people you might know" section. You haven't deleted her after all this.. dude... Just block her.. if you do that she won't come up in the people you might know list...
Author Mr Scorpio Posted June 20, 2012 Author Posted June 20, 2012 That's the thing! I did block her! I swear I did! I went over a year without receiving any messages in my e-mail from facebook other than event invites. Now, all of a sudden I'm receiving status updates? It isn't as though people haven't been updating their status for the past year?
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