blueknight Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 Hello, Has anyone ever lost a girlfriend to a guy she met in an on-line role-playing game, such as EverQuest? This has been bothering me for over a year now. Last March my girlfiend of 2 years broke-up with me without any kind of explanation. After investigating I found out that she had started a realtionship with a man she met playing EverQuest in December. They had never met in person and only talked in the game or on the phone. Eventually, the relationship ended several months later and she started another one with someone she met in the game. Cheating in virtual reality is still cheating, right? Personally I think it is wrong regardless of the "role playing" aspects people talk about. I think I could have handled the whole situation better if she had left me for a "real" person in the "real" world instead of a character in a video game. Regards, C
YellowLioness Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 one of MY exes lost his girlfriend (previous to me) to a guy she met on a M.U.D. I think it was one of the ones that Texas A&M hosts, like Avalon. So, it's not uncommon. Yes, it's cheating. Giving your heart, mind, soul, or body to another while you pledge your love to someone else is cheating, virtually or not. Yellow
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 Four relationships. Four met on an online game. I often felt that I knew the person better because all we had were words to communicate what we were feeling.
Author blueknight Posted July 1, 2004 Author Posted July 1, 2004 Olivia, How can you say you know the person better? I understand about the words, but written words make it much easier to decieve than if the person is speaking them in real life. My ex found that out the hard way. The first person she met turned out to be a pathological liar about a great many things. The second one turned out to not be the fantasy she pictured in her mind. Im sorry, but I dont think you can have a meaningful relationship with anyone that is solely based on-line. There is too much missing that is important.
Olivia_19742004 Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 I think there are always exceptions to every situation. Many people can meet online and have wonderful relationships and many people can meet online and have awful relationships. The only thing that you stated that I feel I need to point out is that you specified that this this relationship was solely based online. I agree with your doubt when considering that this is a valid relationship. There has to be some form of contact in real life or I think that the reality of the relationship could be blurred. However, once the individuals have met I do think it's realistic to think that they can participate in a legitimate relationship. I definitely think that real life contact has to be made but I don't think it has to be on a daily or even weekly basis in order for this relationship to have as much merit as one where both individuals see each other every day.
AmadeusKaelPyralis Posted July 2, 2004 Posted July 2, 2004 Cheating is cheating no matter what form it comes in, be it online or physical. At most times with people who are really into the entire internet deal, online relationships can feel just as real as ones you would have with someone next door. But a theory that comes to mind is that long distance relationships never work, a relationship is dependant upon not only the emotional aspect of the two people, but the physical aspects aswell. Such a children who are untouched by their mothers can grow up with emotional defects, a relationship with no physical contact is... fruitless. one must always becareful of the people they meet, and who their significant others meet online. Not only are predators out there, but other people who are looking for someone to get together with. It can happen right out from under you and you would never know either. However, if she left you for this online relationship then... I apologize for using a cliche or something close, she was really never meant to be with you. Her feelings for you were not that strong if she can be swayed by someone online and you do deserve better.
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