LovelyLaura Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 (edited) Its been 1 month since i ended the A with xMM. Now im in another city, visit one of my office branch until the end of this month. Being far away from xMM, help me see him for what he really is, im no longer "in the fog" The first couple days was hard, i grieved the lost of him, but then i survived.. and things get better. I met a new man here, another single coworker. He is so kind, most caring person that i ever met. 7 years older than me, he is very attentive and treat me like a princess. I feel good about myself again, and start to date this man. xMM (who is also my coworker, honestly he is the boss' son) heard about it, and as predicted, tried to contact me again. Texted me once, i didnt reply. Texted me again, same response from me. i know xMM will stop after the 2nd try. He can not take a rejection, so he will stop to avoid embarrassing himself. Basically his text is nothing romantic, its just platonic "how are you?" but still i feel uncomfortable and uneasy to reply. so i just ignore it. Im tired of his games, and i just want him to get out from my life. But it will not happen in the near future. I know he will be back again, since we are coworker, another month, another year, and he will try to fish. I hate myself. Why i have to involve with someone married? "past me" was so stupid and naive. if only i didnt have an A, i would always be my self. I would live my life without HIM trying to rekindle the A again. I hate the fact that he is out there and still try to squeeze every opportunity to get back with me. I just want him to get out of my life completely. I have a job offer in another country, and its better for me if i take that opportunity. Out of sight, out of mind. But i have this new man, and honestly i start to fall in love with him. He is everything that i wanted in a man. But of course he knows nothing about my past with xMM. We just knew each other for weeks, so im not ready to share that detail with him yet. We spend every single day together. Im new to this city, so he offered to be my tour guide here. Spending every night together for dinner and just talk about everything. I start to develop a feeling for this man, and it reciprocates. This man, being 7 years older than me, is very serious about commitment. He doesnt want to play games anymore, he said. He wants to find someone to settle down for real, get married and built a family together. From the beginning, he made his intention clear, and surprisingly it didnt scare me off. I enjoy every single second i spend with him, and the thought of being his wife makes me smile every morning. Im ready for this serious relationship. But again the situation is a little bit tacky. I work in the headquarter with xMM. This new man works in one of our branch in another city, 2 hours flight from the headquarter. So my soon to be relationship will be a LDR, and i dont mind. its only 2 hours flight so we can see each other easily. But if i stay in the headquarter, i have to see xMM regularly. I dont have any feeling for him, but im tired of his act, try to use the work related stuff to talk to me casually. Its all just to lure me back to be his doormat. It wont work, i know. But its kinda disturbing me, and i dont have any way to tell him to back off because again he is the owner's son, and you dont want to piss him off. I already tried to push him gently, but he keeps coming back, and i hate it. The only way to escape from xMM is to take the job offer. But its in another country and i have to leave the new man. The LDR will be more difficult to sustain So now im confuse.. What to do? Any thoughts will be much appreciated. Edited June 18, 2012 by LovelyLaura
whichwayisup Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Take the job. Don't stay at the job you're at just for the new guy. If you two are meant to be, things will work out. He will make efforts to be with you, come visit you and maybe move to where you are. This new job is a life saver for you, so take it!! Live for you, not for someone else (aka a new guy!).. Change your cell number so the exMM cannot text you. Change your email address (personal one) so he cannot contact you that way.
whichwayisup Posted June 19, 2012 Posted June 19, 2012 Its been 1 month since i ended the A with xMM. Another reason why to take the job, you haven't invested much into this new guy and you're in the 'gettin to know you stage' so you really don't know him yet. Don't let yourself get caught up in butterflies and crushes. Your A is newly over, so can you truly see yourself falling for someone else so quickly? Is your heart and body ready for someone new? Please think about that. Anyway, as I just said in the above post, take the new job. It is starting over fresh/clean slate, away from exMM.
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