daisy088 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 So my ex broke up with me two months ago. When he did, i lost 15 pounds, couldnt sleep, spent all my time crying while he went out and partied it up, getting drunk but apparently crying to his friends and agonizing over it in private. We lived together and dated for a year and were good friends for multiple years before that. We havent spoken for more than a month. We live in different cities now. He wrote me a massive email today saying that he still loves me, cares for me, thinks about me every moment and believes he made a mistake. I dont know what to do. I feel so confused, and wonder if I even have feelings for him anymore. Any advice? We live in different cities and are in very different places in our lives currently. I did genuinely love him. He was so kind to me, proud of me, nurturing, easy to spend time with. He was the kind of man I would to be the father to my children.
Philosoraptor Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Ok he misses you... what has he said or done to make you believe things will be any different this time around?
geegirl Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Why did he break up with you? Seems like things were great between the two of you, from your perspective.
Stanza Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 It's two months for me and I wouldn't hesitate to want to start over so your hesitation for me speaks volumes right now. I think the questions posed are good - an you see what would be different? You need to still be passionate enough about him to re-trust and start afresh. Good people are hard to find so if you do think he's a good one then it's worth considering, however, if you're young and you have processed much of the break up by now, maybe you can also move on. Tricky
Author daisy088 Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 (edited) We broke up because we were at very different places in our lives and we had a breach of trust issue. He says he regrets going through with the breakup and handling it the way he did. He says he wishes we had worked through it, thinks about getting me back all the time, and it took everything in his power to keep himself from contacting me before yesterday. Funny enough- today he basically took it all back because I was angry and telling him how upset and angry I still am that he broke my heart in the first place so abruptly and callously. He basically retracted his wanting to get back together and say goodbye to me. I was a fool to respond to his contact and I should have seen this coming (he cant take responsibility or acknowledge that he would have to really work/fight to have me back in his life I suppose? Or he cant deal with my rightful- anger?). He is immature, and he claims he misses and loves me. Now I feel like I am back at square one. I feel like an idiot for making it obvious I still wanted him on some level and I cant believe he would toy with my feelings like this. Feeling ****ty but at least I know "the one" would never have done this to me. Trying to look ahead and not let myself sink back into a depression... Sad thing is- I still would take him back. Talking to him again and remembering stuff again made me remember how much I loved him. He claims he cares but doesnt. I guess its a message of warning to all- most exes just want to get an ego boost or play around with the idea but wont actually follow through with the work! Word to the wise: dont break NC. Thanks guys... Edited June 18, 2012 by daisy088
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