Should I kiss my male friend?

[confused_woman1]

I have a male friend that I've known for about 8 months and I've never really been interested in him. At first, things were a bit awkward, but we've grown closer in the last couple of months. We are working in different places for the summer, so we had to say goodbye. When we said goodbye, we hugged and he kissed me on the cheek. I haven't seen him kiss any other girls on the cheek, provided we don't usually hang out with many other girls. Our group of friends is mostly guys. Anyway, he's kissed my cheek a few times, but I haven't said anything, and I just hug him back. Well, we've been texting more since we've been apart and he called me last night when I was sleeping. His call woke me up and we talked for an hour and a half. We talked and laughed and he teased me. In the middle of his teasing, he said "I really like you, so I'll let you have this one. I really like you. I really really like you, that's why I'm letting you get away with this." I laughed it off, but he just kept repeating that he really likes me. I'm not really sure how he meant it...teasingly, or an attempt to let me know how he really feels? Since we talked last night, I can't stop thinking about him and I desperately want to kiss him. The problem is that I'm not really certain about how either of us feel. I have no idea whether he really does have an interest in me, and I'm confused about my own feelings since it's just recently that I've felt anything that might be more than friendship for him. I just keep thinking of how amazing it would be to give him a sweet, gentle kiss on the lips the next time I see him. I know I'll have the opportunity to do it, since we'll hug to say hello and he'll probably at least try to kiss my cheek again. Should I kiss him on the cheek too? Should I tell him that I want to kiss him but that I don't really know what feelings I have for him? Should I just kiss him? Or should I just keep things the way they've been?

[whichwayisup]

Can you picture you two as a couple? If yes, then when you see him, kiss him on the cheek. If no, then don't open that door with him. You know he likes you, is into you, he's flirty.. So if you aren't sure, then don't kiss him.

[carhill]

Heh, happens to me all the time. Pretty much like shaking hands these days. I don't allow married women to kiss me on the lips at all anymore. Things remain more clear that way.

 

You desperately want to kiss him and don't know how you feel about him? Hmm... assuming high school is over, I'd suggest taking a long hard look at that sentence and deciding for yourself how you define attraction. OTOH, beware of 'liking' that he likes you in that sexual and romantic way. Slippery slope if your feelings aren't genuine and are merely a response to his expression of desire.

 

By LS standards, your apparent change of heart is rare, but it happens. If you can envision he and yourself together as a couple, accept that and act on it. Don't over-think. Like and love is about feeling. Risky stuff, but rewarding too. Good luck

[gaius]

Don't say anything, just plant it on him. See how it feels. He'll be thrilled.

[Feelin Frisky]

Don't kiss him "like "that" unless you mean business. But if you do, go for it. If not don't confuse the situation.

[Feedthewhitedog]

I personally think you need to consider his feelings a bit more than your own. It sounds to me like he has been in the proverbial Friend Zone for quite some time. There's a good chance that he's been feeling this way for a while if he told you that he likes you. Being a victim of the friend zone, I know the hell that he is going through. You need to decide if he is someone that you like and want to be with, and if that is the case then you should kiss him the next time you see him. However, and this part is critical, if you do not like him in that way, then you must tell him that.