Juialm Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 So, I met this guy and we had a first date. After the date, he texted me, said he had a good time, and would like another go. So we flirt the next day. Come two days out, and it's radio silence. I was the last person to text, and my last text had a question pertaining to his well-being, i.e., "How's your day going?" That received no response. So, am I out of the game? Should I wait until tomorrow and send a hello text? I'm a bit perplexed as the entire time he'd been texting me -- never once did I initiate. I will admit to taking slightly longer than him to reply, sometimes several hours. However, I ALWAYS get back to people. ALWAYS. This is not because I'm disinterested; I don't have my phone next to me all the time. What should I do?
xpaperxcutx Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Let it go. He has your number if he wants a second date he knows howw to find you. You should never chase a guy especially if he's lukewarm about setting a second meetup.
Author Juialm Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 I know; however, I'd like to point out that I'm a guy as well...I'm gay. I should've specified.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I know; however, I'd like to point out that I'm a guy as well...I'm gay. I should've specified. And I'm bi. Who asked who out the first date? If you like the guy skip the chitchat and set a date. The worst thing that can happen is him rejecting you. But honestly don't hold too much expectation for a guy you've only been one date with. Regardless of your sexual orientation always look out for action over words.
Author Juialm Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 (edited) And I'm bi. Who asked who out the first date? If you like the guy skip the chitchat and set a date. The worst thing that can happen is him rejecting you. But honestly don't hold too much expectation for a guy you've only been one date with. Regardless of your sexual orientation always look out for action over words. Woops sorry, I meant to include, "I'm gay, if that matters." I'm aware that in the end, people are people. He actually has been chasing me for a while, about a week (a while in my world, hah). He asked me out too. And I was the one who decided to reschedule, because of other commitments. We did go out on a date though; it was fun. He texted me after the date as well. The most confusing thing to me is that he's been the initiator for literally everything...I haven't chased, at all. I didn't even pay for the date; he paid due to the fact he'd been traffic stuck (to be fair, our city has ridiculous congestion and I'd experienced it as well...) Edited June 18, 2012 by Juialm
xpaperxcutx Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Okay sweetie go ask him. Since hes been iniatiating so much reciprocate. You need to go after what u want especially since the signs have been So obvious.
mortensorchid Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 The beauty of a text message is that since it's like sending an email unless you have the wrong number and someone responds with an inquiry as to who you are. But if he has not responded, then you made the right effort and you are waiting for an appropo response. Which he is not giving you, so move on.
dbave Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Simple... The next day text "Hey want to do something this weekend?" And that'll make it black and white if he wants to go out or not. Maybe he's feeling like you should put some effort into the relationship. I'm sure he won't mind not being the initiator for once.
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