luvinthesun Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 My bf knows how important pics are to me since day we met ... due to my profession. He absolitely refuses to take any with me. I tend to sneak em in n then shoe n he either makes me delete or gets mad. Ecxcpt he did like one shot ... very nice ... and even made it his Facebook profile shot! So I asked him to compromise... no more of me randomly snapping ... sneaking. We take posed pics like at an amusement park, vacation... special things we do... see. And he can approve one ... and we can use his camera. I thought that sounded fair??; I am trying. He said we will see... which means no. What else can I do? He is self conscious ... but is amazing . works out... built...!!! Help??;
Eddie Edirol Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Ive done this with a past gf. I didnt want any pics of me and her going up on her facebook, because I wasnt serious about her. Thats why, since your bf has been preferring the cats to you, its another sign to stop going to his house and jump ship on this relationship.
HHC Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I think outside of out wedding photos my husband and I have no more than a handful of photos together. He just doesn't take them, like taking them, or having his picture taken I love photos and that means I have to take a lot of self shots, or they're always him with the kids.
Quiet Storm Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Unless he is a Native American and believes that photos steal your soul, I would take that as a red flag. He either is not that into you, married, or wanted by the FBI. 3
dbave Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 yep you got yourself a criminal like Quiet Storm says
SarahRose Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Ive done this with a past gf. I didnt want any pics of me and her going up on her facebook, because I wasnt serious about her. Thats why, since your bf has been preferring the cats to you, its another sign to stop going to his house and jump ship on this relationship. when i first looked at this i thought you said to stop going to his house to jump on his ship. really he doesn't seem that interested so it would be wise not to go to his house and jump on his mast. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I'm going to have to defend this one because I'm extremely unphotogenic and I HATE taking pictures...I really do, I might like one out of 100,000. I also dislike surprise photo ops, or quick snaps, I freeze up like a rodent in the middle of a busy highway, it's like my nerves go "dont taze me bro!" on me...I just really dislike taking pictures, regardless of the occassion, I don't like anything about them. However this guy made his FB profile the pic with you in it right? Tell him to take one with you that he approves of. I'll do it If I have to, but I'll admit I do get annoyed at the sight of a camera, it's not one of my strong suits that for sure (taking pics) and of course most women I've met love taking photos, arggggh! He could also say he is in a relationship and post that you two are together right? Just make sure he's not like me, because this would definitely be a me kinda thing than an us kinda thing...plus I'll take them If I have to which I've been forced to as I've gotten older and just stop fighting it so much but I still hate them just as much as I used to 1
Radu Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Damn, what is the world coming to ... agreeing with Ninja. I also don't like to have pictures taken of me and put in any form of digital media [home pc too]. Up to a few yrs ago i didn't want that because i was depressed and well, it would have been facing what i was like and i wanted to avoid that. Now i like to have pictures taken of me, but i prefer to have them in an external HDD [or printed]. I have told my ex at the time that i don't want any pictures of me on FB or on YM/MSN. Once you put something online, it stays there. She also thought that i wasn't serious about her, and it was one of the minor things that led to our breakup. Young ppl today forget how it was 10+ yrs ago when having your picture online was considered an invasion of privacy. After social networking sites took hold everyone is OK with exposing themselves on the Internet. The ammount of information you can gather from someone just reusing the email address is staggering.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 when i first looked at this i thought you said to stop going to his house to jump on his ship. really he doesn't seem that interested so it would be wise not to go to his house and jump on his mast. Well in her last thread she said he seems to prefer his cats over her. Then, she decided she was going to stop going to his house as it was way out of the way. i guess she changed her mind. I also didnt realize the possibility that so many people dont like taking pictures of themselves.
Author luvinthesun Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 Bf did use the pic of us as his Facebook.pic and yes has that he is in a relationship on Fb. I never post pics of others on Fb. He did say I could post that one after I asked when he made it his Fb pic. He knows I can make him look good in pics... I have several awards and he.knew this upon dating. I think using his camera and one pic is compromising. Is he takes.pics with me ... he keeps on his motorcycle helmet it covers face. Wow axe murderer??? Any other ideas to compromise?? Damn, what is the world coming to ... agreeing with Ninja. I also don't like to have pictures taken of me and put in any form of digital media [home pc too]. Up to a few yrs ago i didn't want that because i was depressed and well, it would have been facing what i was like and i wanted to avoid that. Now i like to have pictures taken of me, but i prefer to have them in an external HDD [or printed]. I have told my ex at the time that i don't want any pictures of me on FB or on YM/MSN. Once you put something online, it stays there. She also thought that i wasn't serious about her, and it was one of the minor things that led to our breakup. Young ppl today forget how it was 10+ yrs ago when having your picture online was considered an invasion of privacy. After social networking sites took hold everyone is OK with exposing themselves on the Internet. The ammount of information you can gather from someone just reusing the email address is staggering.
Author luvinthesun Posted June 18, 2012 Author Posted June 18, 2012 My bf knows how important pics are to me since day we met ... due to my profession. He absolitely refuses to take any with me. I tend to sneak em in n then shoe n he either makes me delete or gets mad. Ecxcpt he did like one shot ... very nice ... and even made it his Facebook profile shot! So I asked him to compromise... no more of me randomly snapping ... sneaking. We take posed pics like at an amusement park, vacation... special things we do... see. And he can approve one ... and we can use his camera. I thought that sounded fair??; I am trying. He said we will see... which means no. What else can I do? He is self conscious ... but is amazing . works out... built...!!! Help??; He also told ne... BTW ... that the pic would only be up like two weeks n then back to okd one with blonde spike hair from year ago ... that women thought it was hot... especially 10 plus year younger ones. I never knew him with hair like that from dying it. This pic is of him in tank top pretending to lick statue boob... and I wouldn't think appropriate at all.
FitChick Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 I don't mind having my picture taken as long as I get final photo approval and all publishing rights.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 He also told ne... BTW ... that the pic would only be up like two weeks n then back to okd one with blonde spike hair from year ago ... that women thought it was hot... especially 10 plus year younger ones. I never knew him with hair like that from dying it. This pic is of him in tank top pretending to lick statue boob... and I wouldn't think appropriate at all. Oof, he's telling you that in 2 weeks hes going back to the picture that the younger women like? I dont like to look to FB for indications of the status of the relationship, but dayum... oof.
mn311601 Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 Unless he is a Native American and believes that photos steal your soul, I would take that as a red flag. He either is not that into you, married, or wanted by the FBI. or he just doesn't like taking photos. I haven't had my picture taken since picture day my freshman year in high school. Not everything has to be about someone cheating or lying.
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