Brunettie Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 I have gone on 7 dates with this guy. We get along so well. He says he likes me and is falling for me and has thought about becoming serious. He asked me the last time we went out if I was talking to other guys, and I asked him if he is talking to other girls. He said he is kind of talking to 2 other girls, but he doesnt really like them. We text all day, everyday and heavily makeout and do a little more than that when we meet up. We cuddle and dance and just act goofy. He says he wants to take things slower because he's gotten serious too fast and it's resulted in him getting hurt. I'm just confused. Why would he talk to others he doesn't like, when we are already at that stage? I'm kind of scared to like him in fear of getting hurt.. Link to post Share on other sites
Justsouno Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 This is guy talk for saying "he is keeping his options" open. When I guy has falling head of heals for a girl, he doesn't want anyone else. You'll know when this happens because all he does is think about you, wants to be with you all the time, and puts you first before himself. At this particular time, you are the one he's dating, but your're not "the one." If you were, he wouldn't be talking to other girls. Its time to give him a taste of his own medicine. Starting treating him the same as he is treating you. You'll have your answer then. If he comes running back to you, he's scared of losing you. If he doesn't, then he really doesn't care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ViresSanctity Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 I have gone on 7 dates with this guy. We get along so well. He says he likes me and is falling for me and has thought about becoming serious. He asked me the last time we went out if I was talking to other guys, and I asked him if he is talking to other girls. He said he is kind of talking to 2 other girls, but he doesnt really like them. We text all day, everyday and heavily makeout and do a little more than that when we meet up. We cuddle and dance and just act goofy. He says he wants to take things slower because he's gotten serious too fast and it's resulted in him getting hurt. I'm just confused. Why would he talk to others he doesn't like, when we are already at that stage? I'm kind of scared to like him in fear of getting hurt.. Sometimes a guy will continue to talk to other girls until you two become official, in other words, sure of you. Maybe he's trying to tell you that reason when he say's he is still talking to other girl. He's "thinking of becoming serious" which means he might still have questions on his mind. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 He's setting you up against competition. Did you put out yet? If you want a relationship you start setting up boundaries. And don't sleep with him. He sounds like the type to sweet talk a girl into bed. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 Says he's falling for you is the 1st red flag. He's either "falling" for you because he falls in love easy and is clingy/needy (hate those words but somtimes gotta use them) OR brcause he's trying to sweet talk you and keep you around while he multi dates. How old are you all?? And the million dollar question is how long time wise have yall been dating?? If it gets to 2-3 months and he won't be exclusive dump him! Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 Sweetheart I hope you are not serious about this man. THis says all over it that he is a player and keeping his options open. He obviously does not follow the "bros before hos" thing either. And insidentally, I am a woman and if I were seeing a few guys at the same time I would never tell one of them that I am chatting or seeing a few others at the same time. I hope he does not do or say something terrible by the time you read this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Brunettie Posted June 18, 2012 Author Share Posted June 18, 2012 What do you mean he doesn't use the 'bros before hoes' thing? Link to post Share on other sites
shayla Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 He's lying. His actions and his words don't match. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 Sweetheart I hope you are not serious about this man. THis says all over it that he is a player and keeping his options open. He obviously does not follow the "bros before hos" thing either. And insidentally, I am a woman and if I were seeing a few guys at the same time I would never tell one of them that I am chatting or seeing a few others at the same time. I hope he does not do or say something terrible by the time you read this. I agree with MC... Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted June 18, 2012 Share Posted June 18, 2012 The shopper has the right to buy as many products as he can afford. Link to post Share on other sites
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