Pistol pete Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Hey all, First off, this another one of those internet dating stories. I saw this girl on a site last Sunday so I though what the hell, I'll send a message what's the worst that can happen. She didn't reply but she invited me to use the chat feature almost straight away (this is Pof I'm talking about)... and we chatted on and off for about 3 hours or so... and she ended up giving me her number as she was having some problems with her computer. We texted back and forth for a few days and then Tuesday night she called me out of the blue and we spoke on the phone for over an hour. It was a good chat, no awkward silences etc. She also called me on Thursday night too.. Anyways whilst on the phone I suggested we meet up, go out for a drink or dinner etc and she agreed. However trying to arrange it was difficult. It seems that whenever I text her.. I dunno how to explain it really, it's almost like she doesn't read it, but always comes back with an unrelated text. I don't know whether this is a concentration thing, or a communication problem on her part. When I call her on the phone, it's like a proper conversation and but she just doesn't seem to reply well to texts. Anyways, So I met up with her, very pretty girl.. I gave her a little peck on the cheek greeting to say hello, then I took her out to dinner.. throughout dinner she made lots of eye contact, smiles and fiddled with her hair a lot and then after that we went for a quick drink whilst the Eng - Sweden match was on.. Again, no awkward silences and we had a good laugh together.. whilst we were standing there, she kept brushing her arm against mine, I'm led to believe this is a good sign? We then went for a nice walk and I made her laugh quite a lot and the atmosphere was very light and jokey. I then offered her a lift home, to which she declined, she was quite happy to get the train back as she had bought a return ticket already. So I dropped her off at the train station and said I'd walk up to the platform with her... unfortunately her train had just pulled in and she literally had about 30 seconds.. So she hopped on, I get the feeling she was angling for a kiss.. I mean she had been popping mints for the last 30 mins of the date, so I kinda figured. But, it just felt very awkward, I mean I didn't wanna get my head stuck in the doors lol I asked her quickly if she would like to do this again, and she smiled and said yes and then blew me a kiss. I walked back to my car and within 5 mins she text me to say she had a really nice time, thank you.. and then later that night she sent me a couple of texts. However this is where it gets a little confusing, I text her at about 8pm last night to say hey what's up, how was work etc.. no reply, until about 12 at night, where she text me.. 'Heeey yooou x' bit weird, so I text back again hey, how was your night etc... again, no answer, until 9am this morning she texts me 'Hey you ok x' and 6 hours later, no reply again. This is what I'm talking about, she seems to not actually read the texts I sent her.. Am I looking too much into it, I mean it is the weekend after all, maybe she was just out and about all day, busy etc Maybe I should just forget it for now and then call her tomorrow to arrange date number 2.
carhill Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Maybe I should just forget it for now and then call her tomorrow to arrange date number 2. Sounds good and, in the future, if there is one, keep the texts to a minimum. Call instead, but only regarding logistics. Keep the bulk of the effort and energy for in-person contact. Picking her up for the next date, or arranging it to be in her neighborhood would be my next move, so she doesn't have to buy train tickets (assuming urban train) and you can gauge her interest in that dynamic. I wouldn't put a lot of stock in signs, other than one clear one; that she keeps agreeing to dates and is proactive about participating in them and reciprocating your interest in clear actions.
runner Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 yea don't get into the texting thing. if you have something to say, or you want an answer: call. sms is for logistics.
Author Pistol pete Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 Thanks for the input guys. I was actually thinking of taking her to a snooker/pool club if there is a 2nd date, it's very close to where she lives and it's something fun and active. We've already done the dinner and drinks thing, and it's too soon for the movie date kinda thing, so yeah could be perfect. If she continues to text then I'll text back but yeah, I won't lose any sleep about the frequency of them.
carhill Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Upon reflection, over the decades I decided to save the 'movie dates' for boyfriend/girlfriend activities, mainly because it's hard to get to know someone while staring at the screen. Prior, a dinner and a movie had been 'normal' in my generation, largely because drive-in movies were common and one could talk and 'make out' while the movie was playing, so the 'getting to know' process could continue. I think your second date idea is a good one, especially if it is something you enjoy. You can definitely have fun with a lady at a pool table, especially after a couple of beers, and make it a bit competitive, but yet fun. Lots of opportunities for one liners and flirting and 'showing her how to do a shot' or vice-versa. If it goes well, don't be shy about being physically affectionate with her in public. Good luck.
Author Pistol pete Posted June 19, 2012 Author Posted June 19, 2012 Little update.. So I sent her a text yesterday to say, what you up to tonight, did you fancy going out again this week, I'll call you later to arrange... To which she said that's cool etc and then we exchanged texts during work for a bit. Anyways it gets to about.. 8pm, I was probably gonna call her about 8.30, and suddenly my phone goes off and it's her. We talked for about an hour or so.. and I arranged to take her out on Thursday. All good signs so far
Author Pistol pete Posted June 23, 2012 Author Posted June 23, 2012 A quick update for anyone who's interetsted.. Had the 2nd date on Thursday, playing pool is actually a very very good idea for a date.. All through the night she was messing around, bumping my arm, poking me, trying to put me off etc, it was all very touchy feely. Anyways, when we were finished, she walked back to my car with me, which was weird because there was no real reason to.. because she said she didn't really want a lift home or anything. We chatted in my car for about 5 minutes, then I 'made the move' and we kissed for about 2 minutes.. she seemed into it, pulling my collar in towards her etc. and then she eventually pulled away and just started smiling at me. Afterwards we chatted for another 5 or 10 mins, then I eventually drove her home and she gave me a kiss on the cheek goodnight. I get the impression from the way she acted, it was almost like a 'that's all you get for now' kinda thing. Hopefully try and arrange date number 3 for this week and see where it goes from there
carhill Posted June 23, 2012 Posted June 23, 2012 Thanks for the update and good for you. Tip: Enjoy the moment. If it leads to something, it does. Life is about moments. Here and gone. All too brief.
Chunky Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 I'm in a fairly new relationship myself. When we first started to hang out she was always touching my hands and leaning up against me. She then started to hold my hand often. Then we would hug each other goodbye. Last month after our goodbye hug I leaned in and kissed her. I was so nervous. Keep an eye out for these things. I'm glad I did! Good luck.
Author Pistol pete Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 (edited) *** Update *** So my pesimistic worries were today confirmed.. despite having 2 great dates with this girl, the second of which ended with lots of physical contact and a very receptive kiss goodnight... I have now heard nothing from her since last Thursday, during which time she has not replied to 2 texts and a phone call. I can understand a girl doing this after giving a number, or after a first date.. but after 2 dates seems a little weird, and to not have the decency to even tell me she isn't interested any more.. *edit* I just called her again, she picked up... chatted for a little bit.. she's 'busy all this week'.. basically said, are you interested in going out again at all.. she said she'll let me know lol. Then she had to go. Yeah, suuuuure. *deletes number from phone* Basically said, the balls in your court now, c ya later. Edited June 25, 2012 by Pistol pete
Chunky Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I'm sorry to hear that. It can suck at times but hang in there, there's someone for everyone. I hope you find that special girl.
Author Pistol pete Posted June 26, 2012 Author Posted June 26, 2012 The annoying thing is, she's just hidden her profile on the site. I guess I was just option 2.. or 3, multi-dating is alive and well. Oh well, on to the next.
yongyong Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 you should've used this line when you got to her house 'can I use your restroom?'
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