BrittanyT Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 So I was on the fence about whether certain things my bf was doing would be considered abuse or not. (hole in the wall, checking my phone, has to know where I am all the time ect) Well last night we were out drinking and having a good time with friends when we got our jeep stuck in the mud, so we had to go separate ways home. Well I was a bit upset that he left me hanging and took off with a few girls and a couple other guys, and left me alone to get home. When I confronted him about it later on at home, he said he was "concerned" about his jeep and I was a big girl and could find my way home. Then he proceeded to try to "make love" to me, I was mad and rolled over, he grabbed me, lifted me up, threw me on the bed and screamed at me. Then left the room to "cool off". We made up, then later he asked me if that scared me. I said yes, and he just said sorry. I asked him today if he will ever do that again, cause I cannot be with someone like that, he said no he wont. Can I believe that?
d'Arthez Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 You cannot believe that. Also "just sorry" will not cut it.
denise_xo Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 You cannot believe that. Also "just sorry" will not cut it. This. If you are going to stay with this man, at the very minimum he needs to commit to counselling and anger management therapy. But I think you are much better off with someone else who shows you respect rather than abuse. There are too many men out there to put up with this kind of crap.
denise_xo Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I just had a look at your other threads. Dump this idiot and move on.
daphne Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Two things that strike me about your post. You were all right. Can I believe that? You don't get it. This guy is abusive and no, you can't believe that he'll never do it again. You haven't set a boundary. You can't ask someone to stop treating you like crap. You tell them and set a boundary. Or they will do it again. They probably will do it even if you do set a boundary. Then you have to walk away. You are not seeing the situation clearly. There is no man worth putting up with this kind of behavior. You are compromising your integrity by not taking responsibility for seeing the situation as it truly is, and acting accordingly. Making excuses or lying to yourself is a way to avoid responsibility and put it on him. It won't get you better treatment, if that's what you're looking for. He'll keep treating you this way, or worse, until you stop letting him.
veggirl Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 No you can't believe him! He is already escalating things from punching walls to physically pushing YOU around. Why won't you leave him? Why are you with him? 1
Meatballsmom Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 This advice comes from one nearing her 60th B-Day and hence and seen it all RUN! It will never get any better, there will be a thousand I'm sorry's, changes will last for a day or a week, but he will always go back to his old ways, and over time will escalate RUN! And Don't Look Back
xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 If someone bumped into me and said they're sorry ill gladly accept their apology. But if someone caused me bodily harm- intentionally - and gave me a half ass apology I walk away from them or worst yet, I get a restraining order. I grew up in an abusive home with a srepfather who treated my mother like trash. Ittook heryears to leave him. they aleays start wigh apologies but eventually their words will have lost their meanng. Eventually they're not apologizing for hurtingyou, they're only sorry for themselves.
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