StarlaStardust Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 My solution to feeling lousy about lonely weekend nights? Planning things for very early the next morning, so that staying in and turning in early becomes a deliberate choice on my part:) Tomorrow morning I am going to a commercial filming. I feel so scared and nervous to be on camera, but one thing this breakup has inspired me to do is break out of my comfort zone and quit being so small about things in my life. I think my ex would have kept me small, not because he didn't want big, wonderful things for me (he did), but because I could see how uncomfortable he was being anything but small. And I would have kept myself small to keep him comfortable, because I loved him like that. You can do the same sort of approach if you want. Go to bed early because in the morning you'll be hitting the gym very early. Or cleaning out your closets. Or going to a farmers market. Or to church. Or whatever makes you get in touch with who you really are inside/who you want to be.
Author skyisfalling Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 You can do the same sort of approach if you want. Go to bed early because in the morning you'll be hitting the gym very early. Or cleaning out your closets. Or going to a farmers market. Or to church. Or whatever makes you get in touch with who you really are inside/who you want to be. That is a GREAT idea. I should wake up earlier so I can clean my room and organize my desk and go to church. I did the opposite and stayed up past 2am just being self destructive to myself thinking of him in my thoughts over and over. Great idea. Thanks girl! Are we going to be seeing you commercial soon? Either way that is really exciting!! I wish you the best, and definitely let us know what happened!
StarlaStardust Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Actually, I'm not sure. I can't seem to get the schedule nailed down for the shoot tomorrow. Now I feel nervous that I WON'T be able to go, after psyching myself up not to be nervous about going, hahaha. Ohhh goodness. There is this production company locally that I have an 'in' with, so I will have lots of opportunities to do shoots with them, and I feel excited in general about expanding my comfort zone in this way. I used to be on camera for press conferences (old job of mine), but it always felt terrifying. So are you up late tonight, Sky? Or are you gonna get up early and clean and go to church?
StarlaStardust Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hey Sky, just checking in to see if you're doing okay:)
CopingGal Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Do something fun on Saturday night. I live in a chit town, so I stay home. I turn on the cool jazz and do a puzzle with my roommate do some scrap booking. Buy a painting set wth a video that will teach you how to paint. Build something. Make some clothing. Cook a gourmet meal for yourself. Do a fun project.
Author skyisfalling Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 Thanks, I just recently bought a goldfish! HAHA, a dog was too much responsibility and so I thought Id start small, and bought 2 goldfishes with one of those oxygenated tanks. So hopefully this weekend, these suckers will keep me entertained. HAHA 1
SerCay Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Thanks, I just recently bought a goldfish! HAHA, a dog was too much responsibility and so I thought Id start small, and bought 2 goldfishes with one of those oxygenated tanks. So hopefully this weekend, these suckers will keep me entertained. HAHA I was thinking of getting a pet rabbit they're cute, pettable, but you don't have to walk em like a dog
Author skyisfalling Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 My pet goldfishes died this morning, belly up So now not only am I sad that its the weekend, im sad that my goldfishes died. For some reason, weekends are the hardest, the weather's been amazingly beautiful and I can't help but wonder all the things we could have been doing if we were together. He's probably out with some girl he met off OLD enjoying the time of his life, and I'm here at home mourning the loss of my pet goldfishes and him of course.
StarlaStardust Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 My pet goldfishes died this morning, belly up So now not only am I sad that its the weekend, im sad that my goldfishes died. For some reason, weekends are the hardest, the weather's been amazingly beautiful and I can't help but wonder all the things we could have been doing if we were together. He's probably out with some girl he met off OLD enjoying the time of his life, and I'm here at home mourning the loss of my pet goldfishes and him of course. This is my first summer totally single. It feels so weird/scary/lonely sometimes, but I'm determined to learn how to enjoy all the very best things in life, like beautiful weather, alone:). Maybe you could go for a run in the beautiful weather, or pack yourself a lunch and eat it at your favorite park.
CopingGal Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 My pet goldfishes died this morning, belly up So now not only am I sad that its the weekend, im sad that my goldfishes died. For some reason, weekends are the hardest, the weather's been amazingly beautiful and I can't help but wonder all the things we could have been doing if we were together. He's probably out with some girl he met off OLD enjoying the time of his life, and I'm here at home mourning the loss of my pet goldfishes and him of course. Sorry. That was a concern of mine when I saw that you had gotten goldfishes to cheer yourself up. Did you leave the water out for 24 hours before putting them in it or use some declorinating tablets? Whenever I got goldfish, they died within a few days. I had no idea there was so much to taking care of fish. It's a good idea to read up on the care of fish, especially goldfish. I know someone who's goldfish lived over a year. She never put it directly in water after running it from the sink. She waited 24 hours because of the clorine in water.
StarlaStardust Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I'm an avid fish-keeper, and sometimes...the ones you get from the store are just doomed from the start:( Stupid petsmart/walmart fishes always came with some sort of problem and often infected other fishes with it, grrrr.
Author skyisfalling Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 haha im so upset that my fishes died, I had them less than a week too! I can't even ask for money back or exchange. They seemed so easy to take care of, but they just died. ugh. Well, I just came back from target and bought some BETA fishes! hahaha Hopefully it'll be better than the goldfishes.
ihateslowjams Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 put them in the same bowl and watch what happens ;P 1
Author skyisfalling Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 Sorry. That was a concern of mine when I saw that you had gotten goldfishes to cheer yourself up. Did you leave the water out for 24 hours before putting them in it or use some declorinating tablets? Whenever I got goldfish, they died within a few days. I had no idea there was so much to taking care of fish. It's a good idea to read up on the care of fish, especially goldfish. I know someone who's goldfish lived over a year. She never put it directly in water after running it from the sink. She waited 24 hours because of the clorine in water. I had one of those oxygen tank things where they aerate your tank. Do I need dechlorinating tablets also? All this for goldfish? So much work, no wonder they died!! hahaha thanks coping gal, I'll keep that in mind next time I buy the goldfishes..
CopingGal Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Hi. No matter what fish you get, you should read up on taking care of fish. Taking care of fish is a serious manner. It's not good to assume that it will be nothing. Good luck.
Author skyisfalling Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 OH MY FREAK! I am probably the most retarded person ever. I had NO idea that putting 2 beta fishes would cause them to get territorial. For the LONGEST time, these two fishes started swimming in a circle really large and puffing up. I read up on what might cause this and BETA FISHES FIGHT TO THE DEATH!! Did you guys know that? Now what!! DAMNIT this weekend is NOT going well AT ALL. I have one beta in the large tank and one beta in the container i bought it in. I have no freaking clue what to do. this really sucks.
Author skyisfalling Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 Hi. No matter what fish you get, you should read up on taking care of fish. Taking care of fish is a serious manner. It's not good to assume that it will be nothing. Good luck. I'm going to have to take your advice. TAKING CARE OF FISH IS SERIOUS MATTER FOLKS!
StarlaStardust Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 OH MY FREAK! I am probably the most retarded person ever. I had NO idea that putting 2 beta fishes would cause them to get territorial. For the LONGEST time, these two fishes started swimming in a circle really large and puffing up. I read up on what might cause this and BETA FISHES FIGHT TO THE DEATH!! Did you guys know that? Now what!! DAMNIT this weekend is NOT going well AT ALL. I have one beta in the large tank and one beta in the container i bought it in. I have no freaking clue what to do. this really sucks. good thing you separated them in time! Someone tried to sarcastically warn you earlier in the thread but you musta missed it! First thing when the pet store opens tomorrow, maybe go have a chat with them there and get all the info you need.
ihateslowjams Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 OH MY FREAK! I am probably the most retarded person ever. I had NO idea that putting 2 beta fishes would cause them to get territorial. For the LONGEST time, these two fishes started swimming in a circle really large and puffing up. I read up on what might cause this and BETA FISHES FIGHT TO THE DEATH!! Did you guys know that? Now what!! DAMNIT this weekend is NOT going well AT ALL. I have one beta in the large tank and one beta in the container i bought it in. I have no freaking clue what to do. this really sucks. hahaha you should put them in separate clear bowls/cups and put the bowls/cups next to each other. They start trying to attack each other but only hurt themselves. NOTE: I NEVER DID ANY OF THIS. 1
UpsDowns Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Weekends are bad for me too, it reminds me of my ex too much. I try not to think about it but I still miss him. Weekends are the worst.
StarlaStardust Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 hahaha you should put them in separate clear bowls/cups and put the bowls/cups next to each other. They start trying to attack each other but only hurt themselves. lol, you sarcastic b*stard. my kinda person.
The Tallest One Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 It's been fifteen days nc with my ex gf and I'm restless most of the time. Evenings and weekends are not easy. I also have dealt with the obsessive loop in my head stuff and it's awful. I only have three friends and I only see one of them on any somewhat regular basis. I am lonely a lot of the time, that or very bored. I am down and don't have much motivation right now to do much of anything other than go for walks, surf this site, and spend saturdays with my youngest son. (oldest son won't see me without his mother present which is super rare).
CopingGal Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 This weekend I have some very interesting things planned. Saturday 1-I will be creating a poster for a group in Uganda that is trying to remove stigma attached to menstruation, supply items that are needed to girls, and encourage young girls to come to school during this time. IF anyone is interested in joining in for the cause, please let me know. I will be putting more info on the thread I started "Make the World Better" in the Water Cooler section. 2-My roommate and I are doing a very beautiful puzzle. It's actually a puzzle of a painting. 3-We will probably watch some Bugs Bunny cartoons on YouTube. Sunday My roommate is taking me out to eat to celebrate that one year ago I left the worse boyfriend I ever had and NEVER asked him to come back to me .
leannesagoodman Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I'm forever restless at weekends or on days where I can't motivate myself enough to do college work. I become too not busy as it were, so much so that my mind begins to wander. Sometimes that's okay, but often it isn't as my thoughts just drift back to my ex. But I'm going to try to make these summer holidays different, and to actually be productive and get enough done for me to not start over-thinking. 1
CopingGal Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Do something meaningful and fun. You can turn weekends into the best days of the week. You really can.
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