ER12 Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Anybody else self sabotage their relationships?! I have a great guy, besides a few issues:) I honestly believe he has not cheated on me, but for some reason I feel if given the chance he would. He says he never would no matter what. But all men say that. He has a thing for younger girls, so when we are around them (my daughter 21, and her friends) I watch him like a hawk. He wont do anything with me around, but I have caught him being "extra" friendly when I have walked up. Not touchy, but just extra nice. I know its just me, he is a very outgoing guy. I find myself not eating around him cause I want to stay thin and pretty for him. Its pathetic! He has had ex's (young) contact him and he has not responded, (I know for a fact) he loves me and we are getting married in Aug. So how do I stop thinking so negative about him being around other girls? I think he is thinking about screwing them all. I know some guys do, but I would like to think some dont. And if your just going to post something rude, keep it to yourself. Thanks!
Philosoraptor Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 This is the same guy with the anger issues? This is just another reason to ditch him and find a mature adult. You're not self sabotaging anything here, your brain is a high alert and you are trying to find ways to ignore the problems. So he puts his fist through the wall when angry and you seem to have little trust for him (and I believe it's warranted in this case). And you're still thinking about this marriage why?
veggirl Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I agree with Phil. You aren't self-sabotaging, you are self-preserving. You have an abusive, controlling, untrustworthy man in your life. This is your gut telling you to run for the hills.
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