kyleanthony123 Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 There is a girl who works at a local dollar store that I frequent. She's a cashier/shelf stocker. She seems very nice and is very attractive and is a bit younger than me (probably late teens - 18 or 19). She seems to be very nice around me and smiles quite a bit when I ask her questions about merchandise in the store or say hello. But then again she smiles at other customers too (women and men), it just seems to me to be a warmer smile towards me. She also seems to smile at me quite a bit whenever we make eye contact. So I'm wondering if she's just being polite and customer friendly or something more. I am 25 and have NEVER been on a date before (not even in high school), and have never asked anyone out before, so I would be very nervous asking her out. I know it sounds weird in this day and age for a man my age to not have been on a date before, but thats just the way it turned out for various reasons. How do I know if she's interested in me and not just being polite? When ever I see her I don't really get the chance to talk much with her because its usually when I'm in the check-out lane and there are people behind me, and I didn't want to get her into trouble with her boss by holding up the line. I know many of you would probably say just go for it but the mere thought of asking her and perhaps getting rejected has me nervous as heck, especially if I am reading her signals all wrong and she was just being nice to a store customer.
NYC-BigKat Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 There is a girl who works at a local dollar store that I frequent. She's a cashier/shelf stocker. She seems very nice and is very attractive and is a bit younger than me (probably late teens - 18 or 19). She seems to be very nice around me and smiles quite a bit when I ask her questions about merchandise in the store or say hello. But then again she smiles at other customers too (women and men), it just seems to me to be a warmer smile towards me. She also seems to smile at me quite a bit whenever we make eye contact. So I'm wondering if she's just being polite and customer friendly or something more. I am 25 and have NEVER been on a date before (not even in high school), and have never asked anyone out before, so I would be very nervous asking her out. I know it sounds weird in this day and age for a man my age to not have been on a date before, but thats just the way it turned out for various reasons. How do I know if she's interested in me and not just being polite? When ever I see her I don't really get the chance to talk much with her because its usually when I'm in the check-out lane and there are people behind me, and I didn't want to get her into trouble with her boss by holding up the line. I know many of you would probably say just go for it but the mere thought of asking her and perhaps getting rejected has me nervous as heck, especially if I am reading her signals all wrong and she was just being nice to a store customer. Dont ask her out! She will say no I know she will 'cause girls always so no to me. Even the masseuse isn't interested .
Author kyleanthony123 Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 Dont ask her out! She will say no I know she will 'cause girls always so no to me. Even the masseuse isn't interested . I can't really tell if you are kidding or serious....
LoverOfDance Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Ask her out, PLEASE! My God, I really can't believe you've never asked anyone out b4. Don't be scared. It's not a big deal. She might reject u but it's ok. Rejection is not a big deal either. It's only a big deal if u choose to see it that way. If she says no, it's all good. U tried. At least u'll be able to say I've asked a girl out b4. Just carry on with your life and try to ask out more girls. The way I see it, u have nothing to lose here. If anything u'll actually be gaining something - confidence/guts and a little bit of experience in asking out girls. Don't be scared. There's nothing to it:) 1
SJC2008 Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Is there an aisle you can hang back on where u can seer her and she can't see u so u can wait until ther's nobody in line? If so, when you check out tell her with a big smile "Hey jot your # on the reciept for me". DO IT NOW so you can get used to asking woman out. I got a few dated in my late teens w coworkers but didn't get a cold # until I was 29 so let's get on the ball and not wait till your almost 30.
mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I am encouraging you to ask her out, but for the sake of her job security, it might be best not to ask her out while she is on the job. Once I was standing in line at a restaurant window waiting for an ice cream, the guy ahead of me asked the girl who was waiting on him for her phone number. She said she was not allowed to give our her phone number while on the job. Just an FYI.
Author kyleanthony123 Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 I am encouraging you to ask her out, but for the sake of her job security, it might be best not to ask her out while she is on the job. Once I was standing in line at a restaurant window waiting for an ice cream, the guy ahead of me asked the girl who was waiting on him for her phone number. She said she was not allowed to give our her phone number while on the job. Just an FYI. How would I do it if not on the job? That is the only time I see her. I have never seen her anywhere but at this store when she is working.
jobaba Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 There is a girl who works at a local dollar store that I frequent. She's a cashier/shelf stocker. She seems very nice and is very attractive and is a bit younger than me (probably late teens - 18 or 19). She seems to be very nice around me and smiles quite a bit when I ask her questions about merchandise in the store or say hello. But then again she smiles at other customers too (women and men), it just seems to me to be a warmer smile towards me. She also seems to smile at me quite a bit whenever we make eye contact. So I'm wondering if she's just being polite and customer friendly or something more. I am 25 and have NEVER been on a date before (not even in high school), and have never asked anyone out before, so I would be very nervous asking her out. I know it sounds weird in this day and age for a man my age to not have been on a date before, but thats just the way it turned out for various reasons. How do I know if she's interested in me and not just being polite? When ever I see her I don't really get the chance to talk much with her because its usually when I'm in the check-out lane and there are people behind me, and I didn't want to get her into trouble with her boss by holding up the line. I know many of you would probably say just go for it but the mere thought of asking her and perhaps getting rejected has me nervous as heck, especially if I am reading her signals all wrong and she was just being nice to a store customer. I agree with the rest of the LSers. Ask her out. Setting the foundation for talking to and asking out women is just the start. And not to scare or depress you, but you have a long way to go. Try not to take it too seriously. After all, you don't even know her. Make a game out of it. A joke even if you will. Baby steps, my man. Good luck.
Author kyleanthony123 Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 Just to add....the entire store is fitted with cameras. If she were to be caught on camera handing a customer her number, couldn't that be a problem? Would it be taboo for me to hand her my number and let her call me?
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Just to add....the entire store is fitted with cameras. If she were to be caught on camera handing a customer her number, couldn't that be a problem? Would it be taboo for me to hand her my number and let her call me? You're thinking way too much into it....I doubt the cops are going to roll up 5 seconds after you get her number, tackle you to the ground and take her number away from you and the chinese owner guy is going to come yelling at you beaitng your legs with a baseball bat. It's just security cameras...You know, like if somebody robs the place? recordings? Batman isn't sitting on the other side of the monitors watching everything that happens in the store...they are there for just in case and it's a chance you've got to take regardless. Just walk up the counter and think of something creative or clever to say (not a pick up line, just to don't have to be so direct) or hell even straight forward (which is always appropriate recommended if you lack wit)... "Hi...I noticed you working here quite a bit...I don't mean to put you on the spot, but would you mind going for coffee sometime?" "Sure...I'd like that" "Great...should I just call the store or would it be better call you instead?...probably easier If I just call you" "teehee, there you go ::hands you paper::" "thanks ::smile:: I'll be in touch (or I'll give you call soon)...have a goodnight/bye!" Rejection outcome, eek! "Hi...your smile has caught my attention a few times and I was wondering If I could take it out on a date?" "::smile:: I'm sorry, but I have a boyfriend...or I'm not allowed to date customers" "Oh no worries, I understand...you're still very nice, you give great customer service" "thank you" "have a good night" And you walk out the door nonchalant like a boss, cause you were just asking...and there was nothing wrong in that. I was just giving you examples off the top of my head...I was just having fun with it a bit, but really don't overthink it, just react in the moment or think ahead of time what you're pretty much going to say and then loosely stick to that in case the situation changes or doesn't present itself...don't overdo it and script it out, or pressure yourself into feeling so nervous and overwhelmed you act very awkward and uncomfortable...shy is ok though, don't act like a player or be someone you're not, just be the confident you. Btw, I think she's too young for you...but this is advice in general terms, I'm going to overlook that since you lack the skills.
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