Shosh Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I've been having this problem for a while now, and I would really appreciate it, if you could give me your input. Maybe I am missing something. It always goes something like this: I am out somewhere with friends and some guy comes up and starts talking to me. If he seems nice I talk back and often we spend a nice evening together, talking, dancing, laughing, etc. At the end of the evening he usually says something like: "I had a really good time with you tonight and would love to see you again. Can I have your number?" I give it to him and he gives me his and says he will call me soon and make concrete plans for our date. Often I receive a text an hour later or the next day saying what a nice time he has had and that he looks forward to seeing me again. I reply with a nice text saying I feel the same. And that's it - I never hear from him again! Why? It does not matter where I meet them, how much time we spent together, if we made concrete plans (e.g. dinner next Friday) and so on. It even happened twice with friends of friends or guys who I have known from my social circle for a while. Thereby pretty much guaranteeing that they don't have a wife or girlfriend waiting at home for them. Sometimes I think my phone must not be working, but strangely enough I always receive the text and calls from friends and family. Btw, a few times I have been the one texting after not hearing from them for a few days. I send a nice, friendly text like: "Hey, how is it going?" And after some time they reply with "Good, how are you?" No mention of not having received a reply to a call and they also don't ask me out on a date again. Can anybody explain what is going on or what I am doing to cause this?
Justsouno Posted June 18, 2012 Posted June 18, 2012 A guy ask for your number to boost their ego. It also gives them practice for the "girl" they really want. Sometimes by the time 2 or 3 days go by, they've found someone else. So you kind of become the fall back girl - They'll call you if they have no one better to call. Its what they do. Guys chase girls. They only call the ones they are really interested in or if they are desparate. You need to determine which girl are you: the wanted girl or the fall back girl.
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