goodintentions Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 So some of you may have ready my thread I posted last night about my recent break up with my ex. I have ultimately decided that I need to move on regardless of my intentions, because even if she does want to give me another shot it won't happen right away and I don't think it will happen until I pull back on my feelings for her. My question is...how do I do this? Being a senior in college, all of my friends are telling me I need to go out and get laid. I really do not want to do this. I've only had sex with one girl who wasn't my girlfriend and I absolutely hated it. I felt dirty, disappointed in myself, and just didn't feel good about the whole thing in any way. I also am very self-conscious about raising my "number" because I believe sex is a sacred and special thing and I know I don't want to settle down with someone who's been around the block and back if you know what I mean, so it's only fair for me to respect them too, whoever they may be, and do the same by refraining. Plus, I'm an emotional person who gets attached pretty easily so I want to avoid that at all costs. I do not plan on having sex with anyone again unless I'm in a serious relationship. So, what is there to do if I'm not trying to rebound? Anything? Am I hopeless? I am going to give going out with my friends a shot tonight and we will see how that goes. My ex and I were supposed to be on a date tonight before she dumped me, so I'm just going to be doing anything to keep my mind off that.
iPhone Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 First off, I must applaud your decision to not sleep around. I am 25 and know how easy it is. So good job for not succumbing to that. I agree with your philosophy. You will ultimately feel more empty inside, and that stays with you, whereas the pain of the breakup doesn't always. There is only one way. Make new friends, especially if your current ones don't have a lot of time. Go to the websites where you meet people, and say how you're looking strictly for friends. Message guys and girls who fit your style, and hang out with them. It's all about friends... not getting laid. Getting laid is terrible advice and is indicative of a low IQ / overdeveloped ID (look up Sigmund Freud)
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