msmmarie Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Okay I really need some advice/opinions....my boyfriend and I have been together for over 5 months now and I'm just confused...my emotions are all over the place, for the past maybe 2 months I'm always thinking in my head "does he really love me?" "does he really wanna be with me?" "does he really care about me?" and I know I shouldn't have to question that I we are in a relationship but I do....first off all he's not very affectionate with me at all, when we started dating he was more then he is now. The only times he actually touches me like I'm his girlfriend is when we're in bed laying down watching movies or sleeping we get all snuggled up wrapped around each other. Now the reasons why I question if he really loves/cares about me is because i feel like I'm way more in love with him then he is with me, I'm always the one saying I love you first, he says it first very very rarely, when he comes over its always me grabbing him to hug and kiss him...if I didn't do it we wouldn't at all, I buy him stuff randomly and he's never done that with me not that he has to or anything but it's just nice because I buy him stuff to show him I care about him, and just basically I feel like we don't act like a couple that if anything I seems like we're just good friends because he is NOT affectionate at all. I used to be friends with his ex and she said he was always like that the 3 years they were together and she said she "felt like an old lady begging him to touch me" and that's how I feel as well! I've talked to him about my feelings many times and he always gets mad when I bring anything up about it and he says how he does love me/care about me/wanna be with me and that his ex always said the same stuff and he thinks its so annoying I ask him but he just doesn't get that my feelings are hurt. If he was the one coming to me with these feelings I would try to make him feel better and do a better job at showing him love and that I care but he isn't even trying with me so I just don't get it at all, I do a lot of crying when I'm alone cause its messing with my head. Im not asking for much from him, even the littest things matter, just a simple i love you trxt when im at work would make me so happy, all i want is for him to let me know he does love me n make me feel it from him. I'm so confused so I'd really like some advice and opinions....am I just crazy and overreacting or do I have a good reason?!?!
FitChick Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 He's just not as affectionate as you are. That is probably the way he was raised. Act the way he does in all the things you listed above. See if he then initiates any of the verbal reassurances, physical affection and gift giving. If he misses them, he might. If not, you are just two different people so you either accept it or find someone more compatible.
Author msmmarie Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 He's just not as affectionate as you are. That is probably the way he was raised. Act the way he does in all the things you listed above. See if he then initiates any of the verbal reassurances, physical affection and gift giving. If he misses them, he might. If not, you are just two different people so you either accept it or find someone more compatible. Thanks...I will definitely try that!
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