d'Arthez Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I agree...don't need to comment more since I don't care to self reflect right now. However its hard to be logical sometimes. They may feel that way, but that does not mean such a perception is necessarily correct.
USMCHokie Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I agree...don't need to comment more since I don't care to self reflect right now. However its hard to be logical sometimes. Eh, it was meant as a general statement for the thread, not to point at any fault of your own...
verhrzn Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 They may feel that way' date=' but that does not mean such a perception is necessarily correct.[/quote'] But isn't it fair to say that if you want a relationship, and are actively working for one, and yet still can't find one, there probably is something wrong with you? I've tried saying that it's a matter of luck, and posters here shot me down, so... which is it, lack of luck or something is wrong with you?
USMCHokie Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 They may feel that way' date=' but that does not mean such a perception is necessarily correct.[/quote'] Perception may not be reality, but perception is real.
SmileFace Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Eh, it was meant as a general statement for the thread, not to point at any fault of your own... Yeah I know. That's why I am not commenting on it but it does hit home.lol
SmileFace Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 But isn't it fair to say that if you want a relationship, and are actively working for one, and yet still can't find one, there probably is something wrong with you? I've tried saying that it's a matter of luck, and posters here shot me down, so... which is it, lack of luck or something is wrong with you? Something being wrong with you may not have to do with your looks( that's just a general statement;))
threebyfate Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Let's do a fun GRE exercise. "Physically unattractive" is to ______ as "Blue" is to "azure." Correct answer: ugly.The above is another twist to what you've just previoiusly posted. Let's do an honest fun GRE exercise. I was never physically attracted to you Correct answer: This means he wasn't that physically attracted to you which might or might not have anything do with ugliness. There are tons of guys I consider to be aesthetically attractive but I'm not physically attracted to them. There are also tons of people who consider Kim Kardashian and Paris Hilton ugly. Not a control freak. Just very, very sick of you popping into threads just to insult me, and then me getting blamed for thread-jacking.Actually, you are a control freak.
d'Arthez Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 But isn't it fair to say that if you want a relationship, and are actively working for one, and yet still can't find one, there probably is something wrong with you? The perception is what is wrong; and people often have a hard time to identify that as their problem, rather than some external factor which they have no control over.
USMCHokie Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 But isn't it fair to say that if you want a relationship, and are actively working for one, and yet still can't find one, there probably is something wrong with you? No, it's not fair to make such a simplistic conclusion. Relationships are so much more complex than just going to market with the intent of buying a T-bone steak and either finding out they ran out of T-bones or realizing you don't have enough money to pay for it. There are so many other factors you fail to consider.
jobaba Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Let's do a fun GRE exercise. "Physically unattractive" is to ______ as "Blue" is to "azure." Correct answer: ugly. Are you studying for the GRE? I raised my score from 50th percentile to 97th percentile on the verbal by doing practice tests. The reading comp part is a mind-f@ck.
verhrzn Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Are you studying for the GRE? I raised my score from 50th percentile to 97th percentile on the verbal by doing practice tests. The reading comp part is a mind-f@ck. I was mostly just mocking TBF. She seems wound awful tight these days, huh? Certainly loves dishing on me-maybe it's projection?
threebyfate Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I was mostly just mocking TBF. She seems wound awful tight these days, huh? Certainly loves dishing on me-maybe it's projection?Notice the flip out session, because I dare to challenge your perspective?
Jane2011 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Are you studying for the GRE? I raised my score from 50th percentile to 97th percentile on the verbal by doing practice tests. The reading comp part is a mind-f@ck. I'm studying for the GRE currently. I've taken it before (2008), but I'm re-testing at the end of July. How long did it take you to raise from 50th percentile to 97th percentile in reading comp? I agree that it is a mindf*ck. I've improved a lot, though. It helps that I teach writing, and that gives me a leg-up on argument styles and structure. I'm an English teacher and still think GRE reading comp is a mindf*ck. Sorry for hi-jacking the thread. We could all use a little GRE relief, though.
Author ThaWholigan Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 I'm still not sure I really buy that there are super attractive females who think they're not attractive. ThaW, they might just be saying that to appear humble. I doubt it, not a lot of them say much to me. I think someone made the comment that some of the girls know they're beautiful and tend to shy away in some cases or at the very least not play the game as they may believe that guys will only want them for their looks. Could be a reason for the singledom. In many cases I have observed though, there have been some quite beautiful girls that never really get approached by guys. The random incident where someone actually approaches them, ironically, is usually a guy who people would say isn't "in her league". Now given I don't believe in leagues, I wouldn't attribute such a claim, but it is true in some of what I have seen that guys who are said to be less stellar in looks by many tend to be the only ones with the balls to go for them.
mesmerized Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 The issue is many folks, both men and women, will judge their attractiveness on their ability to find and keep a relationship...so if they are single, they must not be attractive... exactly. How are you supposed to believe you're attractive when you don't have the men/women you want?
USMCHokie Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 exactly. How are you supposed to believe you're attractive when you don't have the men/women you want? This has made the little hamster wheel in my head start spinning...new thread...
Author ThaWholigan Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 exactly. How are you supposed to believe you're attractive when you don't have the men/women you want? I wish I could answer that with a coherent response . I think I'm a reasonably attractive guy. I think if I reached my physical potential I could be a very attractive guy physically. I also think of myself pretty highly in other facets of my character, and I'm well aware of my many shortcomings also. Ironically, I think that the person I am now is probably not quite attractive enough on the whole to attract the kind of woman I want (not necessarily physically, but in terms of other things too). However, I also think that I'm definitely not far away from being that person and I have enough in my locker to get there soon. Basically, I believe myself to be attractive even though I haven't attracted the woman I want. Is it weird? Probably. But I'm a weird guy so it makes sense to me .
mesmerized Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Ironically, I think that the person I am now is probably not quite attractive enough on the whole to attract the kind of woman I want (not necessarily physically, but in terms of other things too). However, I also think that I'm definitely not far away from being that person and I have enough in my locker to get there soon. I actually feel the same way. I feel like I'm not at my best and maybe that's why I'm not attracting who I consider the best match for me. I'm afraid tho that I do become the best I can and still don't attract the guys I want. Basically, I believe myself to be attractive even though I haven't attracted the woman I want. Is it weird? Probably. But I'm a weird guy so it makes sense to me . it's not weird. It's probably better to feel the way you do than the way we do.
USMCHokie Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 exactly. How are you supposed to believe you're attractive when you don't have the men/women you want? My response, as detailed in my new thread, is that it doesnt matter what you believe.
Author ThaWholigan Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 I actually feel the same way. I feel like I'm not at my best and maybe that's why I'm not attracting who I consider the best match for me. I'm afraid tho that I do become the best I can and still don't attract the guys I want. That's an understandable concern. I think one of the best things you can do in life is to have faith in yourself that things will work out. Something that my Dad taught me . "Faith in the unseen" he calls it. it's not weird. It's probably better to feel the way you do than the way we do. Possibly
mesmerized Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I just read this somewhere, it's funny though probably not that true "Girls that say a lot of guys are after them should keep in-mind that low prices always attract many customers!"
Author ThaWholigan Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 I just read this somewhere, it's funny though probably not that true "Girls that say a lot of guys are after them should keep in-mind that low prices always attract many customers!" It is pretty funny, but not necessarily true . A wide variety of girls could have guys after them, no matter what. I think a lot of it may have to do with the energy they give off sometimes.
mesmerized Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Yes, it must be the size of my head....since that is the only way I resemble my avatar lol I can truthfully say I can't really comment on the intial idea of this thread. Even if I find myself attractive - I am still single. So who knows -is it me protecting myself, not settling or just not that attactive. It is pretty funny, but not necessarily true . A wide variety of girls could have guys after them, no matter what. I think a lot of it may have to do with the energy they give off sometimes. I dunno about that. I'm pretty sure I give off good energy but it isn't helping lol
SmileFace Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I dunno about that. I'm pretty sure I give off good energy but it isn't helping lol Did you mean to quote me? However I know I give off bad energy -- which has nothing to do with my attractiveness so I understand my singleness mostly
mesmerized Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Did you mean to quote me? However I know I give off bad energy -- which has nothing to do with my attractiveness so I understand my singleness mostly No I didn't sorry. Yeah I doubt the energy thing is my case.
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