ivorytulip Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I am almost sure that my husband is having sex with his ex wife. WE have been together for two years and married for going on a year and since he has two young kids from her that I have been raising I just feel so used now for all the work and love I have been putting into the relationships. My H used to drink a-lot that's why she left him for another man. But she drinks too tipsy every time I see her even around her kids. I never did like her because she is a sleezy flake - hate her now for how she talks to me and we have nasty arguments almost every time I talk to her. When the fights got real bad she would call me nasty names say that my ex was coming onto her. H denies all that and tries to make keep the peace - tells me just not to talk to her at all but somebody needs to tell her that she needs to help with the kids and at least send cloths. Then a few months ago at the kids play she didn't say anything but gives me this mona lisa smirk and the same thing at the party. This is after her scumbag boyfriend went back to live with his mom and now she had to talk to H more about the kids I told her to quit calling she can't take a hint and just does what she wants. So after last weekend I called her because she was supposed to pick up the kids but my h had to take them clear across town and we got into another screaming match and at the end she says "I've been letting your husband in my bed." My h denies it says that she just says whatever because she knows it will hurt me and not to talk to her but I think he is lying because now he has to pick up and drop off the kids and it is taking a lot longer to do that and I think he would anyway because she is a lot thinner than I am. But I really can't prove anything but I hate her and just want to get away from all this anyway. I read of affairs on this loveshack but it seems I am alone with having to deal with an ex like this.
Philosoraptor Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 She can do whatever she wants. The issue here is the lack of trust with your husband and the fact that he isn't setting the boundaries. He's the only one who owes you anything here.
Radu Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 The issue here is your husband [as the smitten raptor mentioned], he should have your back. I don't know really what i would do in your place, but if she gives her rides, i would deffinitely plant a VAR in his car, or watch the phonebill/PC with a keylogger. 1
Author ivorytulip Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 I see the phone bills Radu and I know they talk maybe not that much more than expected. I know where he goes but what goes on while he is there? The keylogger plan won't work cause his ex can't work a computer so not much going on there. She does not how to work my h though. He's a pretty good guy just likes sex and I feel helpless cause the situation makes it so they have their opportunities and I think she is getting a thrill out of doing this cause she can. sure your right my H... but how could he resist that when she is right there pushing his buttons? I've seen her come to the door in nothing but a tee shirt and panties.
Art_Critic Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I never did like her because she is a sleezy flake - If he is indeed having sex with her then what is he ? Personally.. I wouldn't believe a word she says as she is just trying to torque you. 2
GLDheart Posted June 24, 2012 Posted June 24, 2012 If he is indeed having sex with her then what is he ? Personally.. I wouldn't believe a word she says as she is just trying to torque you. Now that I am a damaged Betrayed Spouse I would pretty much do whatever it takes to get to the bottom of the situation... yep no more blind trust from me. This situation sounds ideal for a Private Investigator. If it proves to be her simply "harrasing" your husband you will have grounds for a restraining order. If your husband doesn't back you up on this, thats his problem.
dedaftfeace Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 sms smpp server and smsc are main in telecommunication, they disposition be playing basic situation in comming telecommuncation network and dialect mayhap converged to multimedia functions
freestyle Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 It wouldn't be the first time an ex spouse has deliberately tried to sabotage the new marriage/relationship. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if she's doing it , just to yank your chain, and be vindictive.
january2011 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 somebody needs to tell her that she needs to help with the kids and at least send cloths Yes, and that somebody is not you. You've allowed yourself to get involved in a situation that is really between him and his ex-wife. He needs to be the one to deal with her, especially because she is unreasonable. And you're going to have to trust him, unless you have evidence to suggest otherwise. Unless you have any legal right to provide parental input (as designated by the courts) then at best, you can only make suggestions. And unfortunately, no one has to take your wishes or opinions into consideration. As painful and unfair as that is, you need to pull back to a position of polite disinterest in her. And everything needs to be done through your husband.
Radu Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I see the phone bills Radu and I know they talk maybe not that much more than expected. I know where he goes but what goes on while he is there? The keylogger plan won't work cause his ex can't work a computer so not much going on there. She does not how to work my h though. He's a pretty good guy just likes sex and I feel helpless cause the situation makes it so they have their opportunities and I think she is getting a thrill out of doing this cause she can. sure your right my H... but how could he resist that when she is right there pushing his buttons? I've seen her come to the door in nothing but a tee shirt and panties. NO NO NO His only relationship with her should be for the kids, if it is not kid related he needs to set boundaries, he needs to enfore these boundaries. If your husband keeps procrastinating like this he is either a weak-willed wuss who will never stand up for you [very bad] or she has him by the balls with something so he can't enforce anything. Either way, stop making excuses for that lump you married and decide what is more important in the long run ... the lump's happiness [you will need to sacrifice yourself for it] or your happiness.
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 to talk to her but I think he is lying because now he has to pick up and drop off the kids and it is taking a lot longer to do that How old are the kids? I highly doubt is having sex with his ex..I mean, where do they go if they are having sex? Again, I think she's purposely messing with you. He'd be pretty stupid to do that. Did you two hook up before he was divorced and while they were still married? Maybe this is her payback..
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