Elaine73 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Hi to all, I'm a newbie here. Long story short I met my ex when I was 18. Was with him ever since then until I broke it off after 2 or 3 years of difficult times. We were together over 18 and a half years and have a son who is now 12. I've managed to go to school full time (18 months) then part time (3 years) to get my degree in logistics and get a great paying and secure job. Essentially over the last years, I had realized how much I have grown personally and he didn't in the same way. The break up was very hard to announce, the response I got from him was typical (knowing that today) I dragged it out over a year and gave him a few chances to "change". But once the decision was final in my head there was no coming back and he knew it. It's been almost two years now. No new boyfriend on my side, just a quicky ;-) and the same thing for him (a few more than me though). We've always been able to speak frankly to each other since then and explode on a fight when necessary .... Today, I realize how manipulative he can be, knowing me so well. I still get the adrenalin shakes when I'm mad or I know a "fight" is about to happen. I'd like to get some advice from you : With our son being diabetic we have to talk almost on a daily basis. He sees his dad every Tuesday & Friday night (sleeps over). This arrangement was agreed on at the beginning of our separation and today I firmly believe he should be more with his dad. Should I ask him to take our son one weekend out of two ? Again I must mention the "fear" I still have of his manipulation and I literally hate confrontations, they make me almost sick . But when push comes to shove I'm not a person he wants to cross... (he knows this) I need some "personal" time so I can plan maybe dates or weekend outings without him having to ask me questions. Ohhh, I'm mixed up now. Hope some one can see the underling problem that I have that I can't see. Thanks in advance, it will really be much appreciated, Elaine
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