no_radar Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 So for those who have read my previous posts, you will know I'm a hopeless romantic and unlucky in love...all topped off by my inability to read a woman's signals. The girl referred to in my previous post's and I went out for drinks again last night, met with a kiss on the lips and finished the night with the same which confuses me.....why? I'll explain; I decided to be upfront and ask; "do you see us as just friends or maybe something more?" she responded; "yes, urrr no, yes actually just as friends! You are hot and really the most genuine guy I have met, but you never know what will happen do you! We still have the festival to go to soon as well, we are just friends now but we'll see what happens! Does this put a dampener on our night tonight?" I replied "No that's fine and of course not we will still have a great night, and sorry if I over stepped the mark earlier kissing you then?!" Finally she said "No you didn't over step the mark, I wouldn't let you over step the mark!" So I find myself in 'no mans land' not knowing what to do, I don't wanna fall for her big time which I know will happen if I keep seeing her on a regular basis....cos thats just a broken heart waiting to happen for me! It did disappoint me when she said just friends too! She keeps talking about me meeting her family and her meeting mine as a 'loving friend' in her words! Also she wants to come to mine and cook us a curry this week one evening! I really really don't know what to do.....should I cut and run? I cant be dealing with another broken heart and bout of depression having only just got over one from a previous girl! Does it look like i've been well and truly friend zoned?? Would love to hear what others would do and what you think I should do. Thank you in advance
utterer of lies Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 So for those who have read my previous posts, you will know I'm a hopeless romantic and unlucky in love...all topped off by my inability to read a woman's signals. The girl referred to in my previous post's and I went out for drinks again last night, met with a kiss on the lips and finished the night with the same which confuses me.....why? I'll explain; I decided to be upfront and ask; "do you see us as just friends or maybe something more?" she responded; "yes, urrr no, yes actually just as friends! You are hot and really the most genuine guy I have met, but you never know what will happen do you! We still have the festival to go to soon as well, we are just friends now but we'll see what happens! Does this put a dampener on our night tonight?" I replied "No that's fine and of course not we will still have a great night, and sorry if I over stepped the mark earlier kissing you then?!" Finally she said "No you didn't over step the mark, I wouldn't let you over step the mark!" So I find myself in 'no mans land' not knowing what to do, I don't wanna fall for her big time which I know will happen if I keep seeing her on a regular basis....cos thats just a broken heart waiting to happen for me! It did disappoint me when she said just friends too! She keeps talking about me meeting her family and her meeting mine as a 'loving friend' in her words! Also she wants to come to mine and cook us a curry this week one evening! I really really don't know what to do.....should I cut and run? I cant be dealing with another broken heart and bout of depression having only just got over one from a previous girl! Does it look like i've been well and truly friend zoned?? Would love to hear what others would do and what you think I should do. Thank you in advance Why would you even ask this? It only makes you look insecure. She will let you know if you overstep the boundaries. Don't be so scared.
amantis Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Hi Look , you only had 1 date with her ? How do you know that you are going to fall in love with her ? One thing that i can tell you is that , before you fall in love for someone you must be friends first , if you go straight to a relationship without being friends , thats weird and theres going to be a point that you know that something is wrong . So you want her to start loving you on the first date ? second date ? that doesnt happen mate . She want to see you again and she is making plans with you , i think that she likes you ( not in love because to be in love for someone takes time , dates and friendship ) Just relax , enjoy her company and see if theres something more between you 2 RELAXXXXXXXXXX
Author no_radar Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 I agree it does make me look insecure, and I guess I am. I need to stop over analysing things to be honest, though that is my nature! Weve been going out on lil dates and for drinks for about 2 months now and ive known her for 5 months so that is why I feel myself falling for her! Thanks for the input
Glass Bead Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I went out for drinks again last night, met with a kiss on the lips She: he's really into me I decided to be upfront and ask; "do you see us as just friends or maybe something more?" She: he's going a bit fast isn't he? she responded; "yes, urrr no, yes actually just as friends! You are hot and really the most genuine guy I have met, but you never know what will happen do you! She: I like you but too early to say if I want a relationship We still have the festival to go to soon as well, we are just friends now but we'll see what happens! Does this put a dampener on our night tonight?" She: I need to cool this down but I like hanging around with this guy I replied "No that's fine and of course not we will still have a great night, and sorry if I over stepped the mark earlier kissing you then?! Finally she said "No you didn't over step the mark, I wouldn't let you over step the mark!" She: Keep doing it! So I find myself in 'no mans land' not knowing what to do, I don't wanna fall for her big time which I know will happen if I keep seeing her on a regular basis....cos thats just a broken heart waiting to happen for me! If that's what you believe then that's your fate when dealing with all women. It did disappoint me when she said just friends too! She keeps talking about me meeting her family and her meeting mine as a 'loving friend' in her words! 'Friends' may not mean that you've been friend-zoned, yet. What were you expecting - asking that question immediately rose the emotional stake between both of you, which can be scary for the other side. 'Friends' here sounds more like a convenient way to cool things down. Also she wants to come to mine and cook us a curry this week one evening! I really really don't know what to do.....should I cut and run? I cant be dealing with another broken heart and bout of depression having only just got over one from a previous girl! Does it look like i've been well and truly friend zoned?? Would love to hear what others would do and what you think I should do. Thank you in advance Fix what didnt worked before you get into another relationship - you'll be repeating the same mistake over and over until you do.
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