jobaba Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 'Bubble Skin Man' Chandra Wisnu Seeks A Cure For Condition Before It Hits His Kids, TLC Documentary Show (VIDEO) Two things came to mind while watching this video. 1) I feel pretty good looking right now. 2) Where do I find women like this? I cannot believe she stayed with him. I have never even met a woman who would even come close to staying with a man if that happened. Maybe it's the US.
ladyabstrused Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 That's a pretty interesting video. Thanks for sharing, jobaba. That's what you'd call love and loyalty, no? If I were in her shoes, I'd do the same. If she were to leave him, then she never really loved or cared about him. That's not the case here. I'm sure there are a lot of women out there (probably a lot in the US also) who would do the same for a loved one. Probably dispersed out. Keep looking.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 If I truly loved a man, I would never think twice about sticking by him through something like that, or any other kind of disfigurement. A woman that would leave you trough something like that never truly cared about you anyway.
firehawk_1 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 oh please! for women who say "oh I would do the same thing" - stop lying! you wouldnt! its a fact. dont be a hypocrite. the only reason she is with this person is for the $$$ - its as simple as that, its what women ONLY care about, and themselves. 1
ladyabstrused Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 oh please! for women who say "oh I would do the same thing" - stop lying! you wouldnt! its a fact. dont be a hypocrite. the only reason she is with this person is for the $$$ - its as simple as that, its what women ONLY care about, and themselves. Not all women lie when they would say that. I was in a relationship where I was the one who put out so much more money as compared to the ex. Not ALL women care only about money.
daphne Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Oh please. Women are more likely to stay with a man that has health problems (or has even changed gender) due to unconditional love than a man who would leave if his wife starts to gain weight. You would never see a man stay with a woman with this condition. 4
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Oh please. Women are more likely to stay with a man that has health problems (or has even changed gender) due to unconditional love than a man who would leave if his wife starts to gain weight. You would never see a man stay with a woman with this condition. This... In my experience, men felt burdened by even minor health problems that didn't impact looks. Let alone something like this.
DuchessKaye Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 You would never see a man stay with a woman with this condition. I know............
d'Arthez Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Depends on the man and woman involved. There are plenty of men and women who jump ship, once health issues come up. There are also plenty of men and women who would not. Naturally the severity of the issue does play a role. Cultural expectations and perhaps even socio-cultural circumstances do play a role as well. That is perhaps one of the explanations why women might be more likely to stay than men.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Actually, the severity of the issue doesn't impact on if I would stay or not (once I am committed)
Author jobaba Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 Oh please. Women are more likely to stay with a man that has health problems (or has even changed gender) due to unconditional love than a man who would leave if his wife starts to gain weight. You would never see a man stay with a woman with this condition. I'm sure you're right. But I don't care because I'm not interested in men. It's hard for me to believe that reading all of the stuff about women absolutely needing attraction and passion and spark and my own experiences, that more than 1 out of 1000 women would stay beside her man through this ordeal. Myself, I'm very practical and logical when it comes to what I look for in a mate and looks has never been a big decider for me, so there's a chance I would stay. But I'll honest, it'd be a little tough.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Many enduring marriages include a terrible demise of health. Just because it doesn't look so shocking, a struggle with cancer or Alzheimer's does not require an unusual woman to stand by her husband, if the true commitment is there. This guy looks messed up, but his condition escalated over time and his wife has probably grown used to it.
Els Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 If you go to hospitals often, you see people sticking it through with partners who are facing horrible diseases all the time. If you're comparing this with the people that you know, then, well, of course you wouldn't see it, because there has never been need for it. You don't know what someone can or can't do until they are put to the test. 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Now, if Chandra was trying to get dates, that would be a different story ...
fucpcg Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Its amazing how ignorant and full of crap some of the people in here are, and even better, how much they love to show it off. I'd answer firehawk, but why? Your destiny will be the product of the kind of person you are, good luck. As far as "men would, women would, no they wouldn't" etc, again BS. I have to go to the cancer hospital every 3 months for bloodwork. When I sit and wait in the waiting room it is one of the most gut wrenching things I've ever had to do in life, every time I go. If you want to talk love and devotion, and save the gender crap argument, go hang out in a cancer hospital waiting room. Maybe then you'd have the smallest of experience behind you to qualify your posting in here. 7
xxoo Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 If you want to talk love and devotion, and save the gender crap argument, go hang out in a cancer hospital waiting room. Quoted for truth. The extreme examples make good news stories. More mundane stories of love and devotion happen privately, every single day. 1
Woggle Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I admit I have a hard time believing the women here. I see marriages break up because a guy goes through some temporary financial hard time so you expect me to believe a marriage would endure something like this?
veggirl Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Honestly I wouldn't start dating someone with a disfigurement (can't watch the vid, at work!) but if I was already in a healthy and full of love R with someone then yeah I would stay. and yes I do think women would be WAY more likely to stay than men.
ladyabstrused Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I admit I have a hard time believing the women here. I see marriages break up because a guy goes through some temporary financial hard time so you expect me to believe a marriage would endure something like this? When you say "here", did you mean on LS, those of us who commented? Well, maybe there are selfish women out there who would run away when they see their man having financial hiccups. Each of them probably have their own reasons for putting money as a priority. Maybe a past experience which they would prefer to avoid. Or the way they're brought up to think that it's important to find a rich guy. There are also women who don't really care for all that. I've got friends whose parents have moulded their minds that men who can't provide a certain amount of money to them are not worthy of their time...and no matter how I debate this, they just can't get it. It's ingrained in their brains, thanks to their lovely parents. Perhaps you have not met any woman who'd endure through something like this or some financial problems with their man.
xxoo Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I admit I have a hard time believing the women here. I see marriages break up because a guy goes through some temporary financial hard time so you expect me to believe a marriage would endure something like this? Yep, and I've seen marriages break up because the wife got cancer. But lots of other men and women stick by through hardships. You can't let the worst examples warp your view of all. 3
Els Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I admit I have a hard time believing the women here. I see marriages break up because a guy goes through some temporary financial hard time so you expect me to believe a marriage would endure something like this? There are plenty of women (AND men - would you? would the OP?) who may not stick with a partner through the sort of disfigurement linked in the OP. And there are some who do. I don't see the point you and the OP are trying to make, though - it isn't a gender thing at all. Some people are just committed enough to the partner they are with, to weather storms with them, and some aren't. I have seen marriages break up because a guy goes through financial hard times, and I have seen marriages break up because the woman gained weight after she gave birth to their child. None of that says anything about the OTHER men and women who don't do that ****. 2
irin Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 its called "till death do us part" there are people in the world who actually understand the meaning of that.
d'Arthez Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I've mentally begun referring to the majority of male posters here as the Bitter Brigade. Not ALL, but the majority. Someone posts a video of a woman whose 110% loyal to the man she loves, even in the face of horrible adversity. Instead of simply taking it at face value - for the uplifting human interest story that it IS - it's instead used as yet another venue to denigrate women by the card carrying men of the Bitter Brigade who use their own personal experiences as a brush to paint an ENTIRE gender. Damn, it gets so friggen old. Any bets on how long it will take for a Bitter Brigade member to take offense at your post? 2
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