tina783 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I decided to give this guy a second chance after our lukewarm conversation during the first date. He was kind of soft spoken, didn't ask me hardly a thing about myself, and I felt like I was controlling the convo which made me pretty annoyed. However, the second half of the date was fun because he took me to a concert. I actually had a great time with him in that enviornment.. we danced, kissed, laughed, etc. The next day I thought about the date and our conversing (or lack thereof) and thought I really shouldn't see him again if we can't even have a good conversation. Well he texted me about once a day something funny/cute, and I would respond. Then he called me just to chat. Called. I appreciated that alot, since most men nowadays only TEXT and it drives me nuts. The phone convo went really well and there was pretty much no awkward silence. So I figure, why not! If he asks me out I will do it. Second date was last night and much better with great conversation. I don't know why he was different between the two dates, but he seemed more open/himself. Maybe he was just nervous? I don't know, but I am very glad I didn't write him off just yet. Has this happened to anyone else? First date not so good and you decided to give it another shot anyways?
tivoconga Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 That's happened to me several times - to the point where I always give the person an option for a second date unless the first one was hellish. The second, third, and fourth dates you always get something at least a bit different than date one - and I like to see how the person's going to evolve...
amantis Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 The problem nowadays is that we have options , and thats a big problem with dates . If you dont like the first one , you just go to the next guy . Most of the time people dont like the first date so they dont want another . People have to understand that you need more then 1 date to know someone and that the first date for us man , we have alot of pressure , and i talk for myself , my last dates were very good looking girls , and i know that they have alot more guys after them , i feel pressure because if im a bit shy , or i say something wrong that i dont get another chance , and the same goes for them , if i see something that i dont like i just say next and i dont care if they are hot or not , and thats a PROBLEM and i know its wrong . Im happy that you gave the guy another chance and you seem happy about that Good luck and maybe if im not having a good date , im going to remember about this and maybe maybe , i can give another chance to see how things go
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