shelby4thewin Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I have NO idea what to think about this situation I'm in. So I met him at this local thing we have called "taco tuesdays" this is where a bunch of bands play, people socializing and what not. Well, this is where I met him(Andy). He came up to me after we were introduced through mutual friends. After getting to know him, I found out that he is 25, is a music producer and promotes local bands. Not to mention he plays guitar, makes his own music, and has an AMAZING voice. During this whole process of talking, I showed him a couple of my youtube videos of me playing guitar and singing. He literally looked at me in awe and told me I was the girl for him. Unfortunately, I only had a week to spend time with him before he left to go on Warped Tour, which lasts about 3 months. He's really busy, and we're not exactly exclusive only cause we didn't have that much time to spend, but he still calls me at least once a day. And when we do talk, he always tells me that "I want to be with you when I get back" or "I'm falling so hard for you, it's crazy." Which is weird because I'm feeling the SAME way. So finally after weeks of talking, I get to see him next week cause he's touring through town. But a part of me is nervous because I don't know if he's just telling me these things because he wants to have sex with me (which we haven't done yet) or if he's serious about me. We always talk about how we're gonna have sex when I see him on tour, but I don't really think he'd be wasting his time with me if there's all sorts of groupies around right? Idk what to think.....and I'm scared.
mortensorchid Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 OH sweetheart, I know just how you feel. I used to be a groupie girl myself, still am in many ways. I have learned my lessons with those guys, which I will not tell you all of here because I would have to write a book on them. But there are a few essentials that you have to keep in mind here: 1) The Only One - You are not the only one. They have women in every city. If you honestly think that you are the only one, then you are truly neive. Once you have come to this realization, there are two choices : be one of the crowd and be fine with it, or walk away and look in other pastures. 2) Trust - You know yourself, and if you feel you know him as well, then you can trust him. TO A DEGREE that he will come home to you.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Assume that he just sweet talks you to be a groupie until his actions prove otherwise. You will never be secure in this relationship if he is good looking and on tour. Keep your feelings and attachments off of him until you are COMPLETELY sure so you dont get hurt. Watch for the red flags. Make sure at some point he wants to be exclusive. Dont make excuses for weird behavior, take it at face value and dont overlook the obvious. If he's areal charmer, you have to assume he is charming many women until you can prove otherwise. You might not be able to prove otherwise until he stops touring. So dont fall so fast.
FitChick Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Having a musician boyfriend is good for women who don't want a guy around most of the time. That way you can still date other guys. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 "I'm falling so hard for you, it's crazy." Falling for you when he's not even seeing and spending time with you? Yeah, that is crazy. Don't have sex when he comes into town. Take your time getting into bed with him. Then you'll find out exactly how hard he's falling for you. 1
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