tivoconga Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I met a girl at a grocery store a couple weeks ago...it was one of those amazing produce-aisle romances. Anyhow, since meeting we've texted a lot (she described herself as a super texter), but we haven't gotten together for an official date. A few days ago, she said something that I put in one of my texts was a "red flag" for her and that she doesn't date guys with that flag - it seemed like an odd flag, but to each their own (I couldn't tell if she was serious about it, or what). Anyhow, I'm fine with that - texts aren't much effort. The weird thing is, though, she keeps texting me, and if I send her a text, she responds pretty darn fast. Is this girl interested and just playing hard to get, or what's going on? Is there some kind of weird, supertexter code where you have to respond to everything? Thoughts?
Shaun-Dro Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I met a girl at a grocery store a couple weeks ago...it was one of those amazing produce-aisle romances. Anyhow, since meeting we've texted a lot (she described herself as a super texter), but we haven't gotten together for an official date. A few days ago, she said something that I put in one of my texts was a "red flag" for her and that she doesn't date guys with that flag - it seemed like an odd flag, but to each their own (I couldn't tell if she was serious about it, or what). Anyhow, I'm fine with that - texts aren't much effort. The weird thing is, though, she keeps texting me, and if I send her a text, she responds pretty darn fast. Is this girl interested and just playing hard to get, or what's going on? Is there some kind of weird, supertexter code where you have to respond to everything? Thoughts? If you like the girl, why don't you man-up and just ask her out. Problem solved.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 Call her and ask her out. She might just be an attention whore that needs to be texting constantly to keep busy, and you arebeing used as conversation when shes bored. She might not actually like you. Do find out if she is serious by calling her and asking her out. If she says no, then you cut her off for good.
Author tivoconga Posted June 15, 2012 Author Posted June 15, 2012 I have asked her out - and we were going to meet up early this past week, but the meeting fell through (I think for legitimate reasons). After that meeting was scheduled/failed, the red flag thing came up, yet she still keeps texting...
Eddie Edirol Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I have asked her out - and we were going to meet up early this past week, but the meeting fell through (I think for legitimate reasons). After that meeting was scheduled/failed, the red flag thing came up, yet she still keeps texting... What was the red flag thing? BTW, ignore her. If she isnt interested in you for real, theres no use in talking to her.
Author tivoconga Posted June 15, 2012 Author Posted June 15, 2012 What was the red flag thing? BTW, ignore her. If she isnt interested in you for real, theres no use in talking to her. The red flag was I didn't want to add her on Facebook - apparently it was interpretted as trying to hide something (it looks like there's another post on Loveshack that's alluding to something similar). That's why I say it's a weird red flag...but oh well. As for her interest - agreed that I shouldn't bother if she's not interested, but I get confused when I get all the texts from her...doesn't seem like behavior from someone who's not interested. I think I need to ask her out again - that will obviously be the best litmus test. Regardless, what does the superfluous texting imply - that's the real question. Is she interested, or is it viewed as an obligation (i.e. a compulsive need to reply to all texts), or something else entirely?
Eddie Edirol Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 The red flag was I didn't want to add her on Facebook - apparently it was interpretted as trying to hide something (it looks like there's another post on Loveshack that's alluding to something similar). That's why I say it's a weird red flag...but oh well. As for her interest - agreed that I shouldn't bother if she's not interested, but I get confused when I get all the texts from her...doesn't seem like behavior from someone who's not interested. I think I need to ask her out again - that will obviously be the best litmus test. Regardless, what does the superfluous texting imply - that's the real question. Is she interested, or is it viewed as an obligation (i.e. a compulsive need to reply to all texts), or something else entirely? Like I said, She might just be an attention whore that needs to be texting constantly to keep busy, and you are being used as conversation when shes bored. Doesnt mean she likes you. If you ask her out, and she always flakes, it means she doesnt want to see you. But she does need an ego boost, which is knowing you want her, and thats why she texts you back. She knows if she ignores you, that you will go away. So stop texting her. Tell her its because you arent going to keep contact with someone youre not interested in romantically. BTW you are doing the right thing by not adding her so soon. She probably got cheated on and blamed fb and thats why she makes up that red flag. So she is insecure, and you dodged a bullet.
tina783 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 She already sounds like alot of drama. I do not add anyone I am dating to facebook until I am asked, within a reasonable amount of time. You don't even know this girl yet. Doesn't she realize there should be some sort of mystery? 1
dizy Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 She said that she is a super texter so what's the question here? Super texters have their phones nearby all the time and reply fast cause they text a lot It doesn't have to do with whether she s interested. I mean yeah she said that something was a red flag but it doesn't mean that she hates u and she never wants to talk to u again I personally think that ignore peoples text msg is really rude And I know how to reject people politely unless they r *******s If ur interested just ask her out stop guessing wats on her mind only she knows that
Art_Critic Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Stop replying to her texts.. she told you she doesn't date guys that won't add her to their FB... Put a fork in it.. it's done before it started..
Art_Critic Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 She said that she is a super texter so what's the question here? Super texters have their phones nearby all the time and reply fast cause they text a lot It doesn't have to do with whether she s interested. I mean yeah she said that something was a red flag but it doesn't mean that she hates u and she never wants to talk to u again I personally think that ignore peoples text msg is really rude And I know how to reject people politely unless they r *******s If ur interested just ask her out stop guessing wats on her mind only she knows that hahaha.. yeah.. friends.. family etc etc.. but some girl that has already friend zoned you, you have never met and put rules on adding her to your FB account.. No.. it isn't rude... You are making excuses because she is playing hard to get and you are hooked.. the problem is you will not catch her...
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