jnuberjosh Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 It's almost been a week since my gf broke up with me. There was no real reason for the break up other than she has trust issues from her previous marriage and she had reason to believe I was a member of some dating sites,simply because I neglected to deactivated them all. In her break up with me she was very hurt and said maybe she just needs time.my question is...should I write her an email after 5 days of nc to explain to her how I feel.about her and that I want to helo her with her trust issues...apologize that i hurt her although unintentional . From everything she said during the break up it gave me reason to hope after time she may come around....I just don't know....
peas411 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 Relationships are built on trust. Right now you can go and deactivate all your accounts call Jane Doe on the phone and profess your love. And even if she takes you back, if she is dealing with trust issues and finds you not trustworthy then you may as well expect to see even worse problems in the future. However, just talk face to face to show that you are sincere and let her know that she can trust you...also deactivate your dating sites profiles because you have someone and shouldn't be looking for anyone else.
Ruby65 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 She told you that she'd be in touch at some point. If she's not contacting you yet it's only because after 5 days she still doesn't want to.... that right there should be enough to keep you from calling! Wait out this weekend. Let her miss you. Give her space to figure things out. Nothing is keeping her from calling you right now. I'm sure she knows you're very sorry about what happened and want to make up and you've already told her the dating site profile was closed. I would also take this time to ask yourself if you really want to be in a relationship with someone who could suddenly bail and cause you all this pain over something that sounds like an honest mistake on your part? Putting you through this for 5 days..... is that the kind of woman you want to trust your heart to in the future? I think it's very selfish of her to put you through this while she sorts out her feelings or "heals" or whatever she's doing. If you don't hear from her this weekend, I'd consider the possibility she was either using this incident as an excuse to end the relationship, or that she's got some very serious trust issues that make having a normal relationship impossible, because this has been an extreme over-reaction.
Author jnuberjosh Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 Okay...so I was able to get a hold if some onlibe help...the thing that has bithered me a lot this week us that I genuinely didn't have a membership to that site and didn't log on of course since I didnt have a membership...the tech told me without me even telling him.that it was an issue with Facebook wasn't it...I said Yup....he proceeded to tell me he had the same issue...turns out one of my friends on fb was hacked and sent out a spam...to get members to join that site...he proceeded to tell me how to orive that...which everything he sais was true...I wasn't even a member of the site...so should I contact her to mention this to her and price my honesty or continue to wait for her to call...
Ruby65 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 You need to do what you think is best. If it was me, I wouldn't break NC for any reason unless she contacted me and said she wants to get back together. Contacting her and trying to convince her to get back together could just push her farther away.
hk_1 Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 I don't think she has enough reason to leave you like this, she could have done something else to make you understand, this does not look right to me, wait till she comes back or indulge yourself in something else, do not make a mistake of chasing her she will try to stretch you more.
Author jnuberjosh Posted June 17, 2012 Author Posted June 17, 2012 Ok...its been NC for a week...I think....does liking Facebook status's count as contact or is it "just Facebook"...we r still friends on fb and I have liked a statusa couple time and commenting on one pic which she responded to with just a comment and a laugh.
Winning Posted June 17, 2012 Posted June 17, 2012 Ok...its been NC for a week...I think....does liking Facebook status's count as contact or is it "just Facebook"...we r still friends on fb and I have liked a statusa couple time and commenting on one pic which she responded to with just a comment and a laugh.That's still contact. Remove her from your news feed. Better yet, defriend her if you can't handle the things you see. It's in the long run easier on you. 1
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