JONYX18 Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 I NEED HELP AND I KNOW I DO I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR ALMOST 3 YEARS ABOUT 1.5 AGO I DECIDED TO MOVE OUT WITH HIM TO START OUR LIFE TOGETHER AGAINST MY FAMILY WISHES HE MADE MY LIFE A LIVING HELL I WOULD WORK ALL DAY GO HOME AND COOK THEN GO TO SCHOOL THEN COME HOME TO TEND TO HIM IN PART I FELL GUILTY BECAUSE BY THE TIME IT WAS TO GO TO BED I WAS NEVER IN THE MOOD I WAS TIRED OF THE ALL DAY STRESS WE WERE FINANCIALLY NEVER STABLE AND HE HARDLY WORKED. 1 YEAR AGO TODAY HE CHEATED ON ME HE MEET A 15 YEAR OLD GIRL AND SLEPT WITH HER IN OUR HOME NOT ONLY THAT WE LIVED IN THE SAME BUILDING AS MY GRANDMOTHER WHERE I GREW UP.THE POLICE WAS INVOLVED AND EVERYONE FOUND OUT IN A PLACE THAT THEY WATCHED ME GROW UP .I ISOLATED MYSELF FROM THE REST OF THE WORLD AND DIDN'T FEEL LIKE GOING OUT JUST TO TEND TO HIM TO SEE IF HE COULD LOVE ME THAN LIKE MOST CUBAN WOMEN I LET MY LOOKS GO AND GAINED WEIGHT. THATS WHEN EVERYTHING TURNED FOR THE WORST HE WOULD CONSTANTLY TELL ME I WAS FAT UGLY THAT HE WAS GOING TO LEAVE ME. HE STARTED TO GO OUT EVERY WEEKEND AND GET DRUNK TO COME HOME DRUNK THE FOLLOWING DAY IN THE AFTERNOON OF COURSE I NEW THIS WAS DISRESPECTFUL SO I WOULD FIGHT WITH HIM MABE IT WAS MY FAULT BUT AFTER HE WOULD BEAT ME AND I ALWAYS BLAMMED MYSELF. AFTER A COUPLE OF MONTH OF THIS PAIN I DECIDED THAT I HAD ENOUGH I STARTED GETTING DRESSED LOOSING WEIGHT AND GOING OUT WITH MY FRIENDS WHOM HE DID NOT PARTICULARLY LIKE I NEW THAT WAS THE BEGGINING OF THE END AFTER THAT HE STOPPED HITTING ME BUT HE WOULD HUMMILIATE ME MAKE ME FEEL AWFUL GO AWAY SUPPOSIVELY TO HIS SISTERS HOUSE IN NAPPLES I'LL NEVER FORGET THE LAST WEEEK HE LIVED WITH ME MY CAR BROKE DOWN AND I BEGGED HIM TO STAY WITH ME I WAS ALONE AND HAD NO WAY TO GET TO WORK THE FOLOWING DAY HE STILL WANTED TO LEAVE. THAT WAS FRIDAY HE CAME BACK SUNDAY AND TOLD ME HE WAS LEAVING I DID'T BELIVE HIM I HAD DONE EVERYTHING HE WANTED ME TO DO I WOULDN'T CARE WHAT HE DID I WOULD COOK CLEAN NOT CARE AT ALL IF HE DAYS LATER. THAT WEEK HE WANTED TO HAVE MORE SEX THAN EVER BEFORE HE NEVER SATISFIED ME IF U KNOW WHAT I MEAN BUT I STILL LOVED HIM SO I DIDN'T CARE. HE LEFT THEFOLLOWING SATURDAY HE GOT UP AND PACKED HIS STUFF I CRIED BEGGED HIM TO STAY THAT I WOULD DO WHATEVER IT WAS TO HAVE HM STAY BUT HE REFUSSED WE KEPT SEEING EACH OTHER BUT HE WOULD BLOW ME OFF AND MAKE ME FEEL LIKE A PEACE OF MEAT UNTIL A MONTH AGO I FOUND OUT THE TRUTH WHY HE LEFT IT WASN'T ME HE HAD SOMEONE ELSE I SHOWED UP WHERE THEY WERE AT AND COMFRONTED THEM BUT THEY ONLY LAUGHED I FEEL SO USED HUMMILIATED EVERYONE NEW ALL OUR FRIENDS EVERYONE AND NOONE SAID ANYTHING. I FEEL SO LOST I LEFT OUR PLACE THAT WE MADE I LOST MY FRIENDS I FEEL SO LOST AND ALONE!!!!!!!! IVE TRIED BEING HIS FRIEND BUT ALL HE DOES IS LIE TO ME AND I KNOW ITS A LIE BECUZ I HAVE INSIDE TO WHAT IS GOING ON I CANT FORGET AND WORST I CANT FORGIVE HIM AS DUMB AS THIS MUST SOUND DEEPPPPPPPPPP DEEEEP DEEEP DOWN INSIDE I WANT HIM BACK I MISS HIM SO MUCH ITS BEEN EXACTLY 4 MONTH SINCE HE LEFT AND I CANT FORGET HIM HE IS STILL THE LAST THING I THINK ABOUT WHEN I GO TO SLEEP I PICTURE THEM TOGETHER AND HIM DOING ALL THE THINGS HE NEVER DID FOR ME (I KNOW FOR A FACT TRAVELING BUYING HER STUFF) CAN SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!!!!!!! I'M SO BROKEN HEARTED AND LOST!!!!
moimeme Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 Go get yourself a couple of books on 'love addiction'. You should never be sorry you've lost someone who's bad for you. If you are, it's a sign you may not make good choices of mates. Don't think of all the good things about him; think of all the bad ones only. Eventually, you'll realize what a bad deal he was.
Mr Spock Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 Your tolerance of that massive amount of crap almost seems masochistic to me. Have you considered counselling? Not because there is anything wrong with you!! But because you can't seem to get this creep out of your system.......
CurlyIam Posted July 1, 2004 Posted July 1, 2004 You are the luckiest woman I know! I don't know how this happenes, but everytimemy friends bump into a losern they never seem to go away. Why would you want someone who cheated on you in your own house? Have some self respect! And loose the "friends"! You do not need anybody to be happy. I remember moving out after two years of living with my ex. I had left the coutry, went to a new place, met new people, totally changed my life to have as little in common with what we used to have and still it was very tough to take his absence. Tell yourself that what ou're missing is the routine, the companionship, not the love. Trun to your family and let them help you. Don't be afraid to grief, but try to let go... he wasn't that much of a catch anyway !
jonyx18 Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 i cant figure this out ive been doing fine i think less and less of him every day its becoming easier now what i feel is used i did everything for him i showed him how to basically survive here by him self and he took advantage of me. on friday at 5:00 am he sends me a text that he is moving to napple to be with her why is he determined in hurting me we dont even speak why would he go ahead n go out of his way to hurt me than to top it off i see him with her sunday what did i do so wrong i dont wanna see him at all
CurlyIam Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 If you don't want to see them, then don't! He seems to enjoy seeing you suffer! Don't give him the satisfaction!!! I am so happy he's going away! One bastard less around a good woman! c'mon, cheer up! He's worthless! If he indeed cared for his gf, why is he texting you? Why is he still in touch with you? I am telling you why: [color=red]This is not about his love for her, it's about his own damn ego, that's what it is![/color] He's got a new toy to tear and he wants everyone to watch him! Refuse to play along!! Either face him and be uttery indifferent (if you think you're up to it) or don't give him a second of your time and evoid this scum! Best of luck, Curly
jonyx18 Posted July 8, 2004 Posted July 8, 2004 thank you curly for ur advice your wright hes having alot of fun showing her off to our old coworkes our friend taking her to our spot ive had to change dirrections to everything where i eat play pool, club, beach. the liquor store we would buy our drinks b-4 the weekened started even where i put gas he lives one block away from me so i purposely go the long way to avoid him. i dont wanna see them at all i know she doesn't compare to me i look way better than her i have a better body prettier face nicer legs better hair i drive a better car im actually in school for my future she doesn't work i have a fairly descent job but i guess he is happy with her... truthfully i dont know what i did with him for so long.. he is setting out to hurt me purposely i heard that he said when he gets tired of running around he will come back to me IS HE CRAZY what the hell can posses him to think i would ever want to be with him. but to everyone time does heal all wounds just don't speak to them it becomes easier.
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