Coffee20 Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I am just thinking about deleting my facebook account (at least temporarily), facebook brought me nothing good. And just wow one of my friend put himself in relationship and after a month he told me he meant me, though we don't see each other almost at all! I have to laugh really. I also think about changing my email address, it's full of his mails and I am unable to turn the page there and see them or delete them. I have found that you can delete facebook temporarily or permanently. I have the need to do it, at least temporarily. I am watching now things he gave me....I have a few still in my place, I want to get rid off them, want to throw it away. I want to throw it all away.
geegirl Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 I am just thinking about deleting my facebook account (at least temporarily), facebook brought me nothing good. And just wow one of my friend put himself in relationship and after a month he told me he meant me, though we don't see each other almost at all! I have to laugh really. I also think about changing my email address, it's full of his mails and I am unable to turn the page there and see them or delete them. I have found that you can delete facebook temporarily or permanently. I have the need to do it, at least temporarily. I am watching now things he gave me....I have a few still in my place, I want to get rid off them, want to throw it away. I want to throw it all away. You'll be surprised at how liberating and at peace you will feel when all triggers and reminders are eliminated. I had to do this not because I was trying to detach emotionally as you are trying to do but to give myself peace from a situation that was troubling, which in turn will be helpful to you. I canceled my personal email account that I had for 15 years, informed my email admin. at work to block all emails, placed blocks on my phone and changed my FB settings to private. I was at peace. You can temporarily deactive your FB. You can create a new email account and start using it and stay away from the old one (you can deactivate when you are ready), pack up all his stuff, place in a box and hide away or have someone hold it for you. Maybe one day when you're emotionally better, you can decide what you need to do rather than react on your emotions. If you want to throw it away now, then that is fine too.
CopingGal Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 Coffee, I gave away or threw away eveything my ex gave me, including stuffed animals and a ring. I chucked it all. I deleted my facebook account. I'm glad I did. 1
Author Coffee20 Posted June 15, 2012 Author Posted June 15, 2012 ha so I deleted at least for holiday my facebook account with those things - I returned 2 of them and one his tshirt back to him and later he called me immature (when I broke NC) to do this, I don't know, I don't want them, because I don't believe he really loved me and his main priority was money (he didn't give me many presents and I don't even long for it, but every time he gave me something, he kept repeating how expensive it was eh), then why should I keep them.
d'Arthez Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 ([...]but every time he gave me something, he kept repeating how expensive it was eh), then why should I keep them. That is a huge red flag by the way. And a good move to get rid of your FB, for the time being.
Double D Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 Every now again I found myself checking the ex's ft, didn't do me any good. Deleted my fb all together + feel so much better for doing it. Fb is bad! I burnt stuff my ex gave me, felt some closure + don't regret it. Do what You have to do. This is about what's guna help you move on + have closure. Wish you well!
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 It's definitely more difficult to get past an ex these days with social networks around. I deleted my FB a year ago and haven't looked back. It was awful! Not only did I constantly have the overwhelming urge to check out my ex's page, but even when I tried to stop, FB would suggest adding her as a friend. She always posted the best pics of herself (as people normally try to do). So, in my eyes, it appeared that she was having the time of her life since we've been apart. Then, recently her pic popped up in me email. For some reason if you have ever received an email from someone (and deleted it), when they add a profile pic, it appears in your contacts! I felt like on some level...the universe was trying to torture me!
lovinglife21 Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 I deleted mine too, and I'm glad I did. It's weird but the thought of having my break up played out on the cyber-web made it just too hard to handle, too public. The only thing I miss is contact with some of my travelling friends and photos, but I'll get to a place eventually when I can get it back. I learnt after the first couple of times of stalking his facebook that no good would have come of it and have completely not felt the urge to check it. xx
Anela Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 It feels good to get rid of it for a while, but I missed checking in with people. Now I spend a little time there and move on, but I do remember feeling so much better when I shut it down (a few times over the past eighteen months).
Tiera D Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 i think blocking it is enough,although i unblocked my ex once..well trust me i looked upon her wall and my eyes n heart died instantly TD
Mr Scorpio Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 The only reason I joined FB in the first place was at the behest of my ex. Once she made her first post to my wall after the breakup, I simply never logged back onto the site. No blocking, no deleting, no signing-on! I figure that way, if I ever get over her, when I go back onto FB all my old friends -- and the dozen or so friend requests -- will still be there.
CopingGal Posted June 16, 2012 Posted June 16, 2012 When I first tried to friend my bf at the time on facebook, he said he didn't get the request. I'm sure that was a lie. He was probably deleting things first. I can't believe he used God in his lies when he lied to me about Facebook. Regarding emails, I don't use any of the email accounts I did when I was with my ex. I even got new phones. My life has changed so much compared to when I was with him last year. I can't believe that next month it will be a year since I left him. I felt that I could not live without him. Now it's coming up on a year that I haven't been his gf. To be honest, I don't know if I ever was.
Author Coffee20 Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 i think blocking it is enough,although i unblocked my ex once..well trust me i looked upon her wall and my eyes n heart died instantly TD I understand well, because I did it too, that wasn't a good idea, I was just curious.....
Author Coffee20 Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 The only reason I joined FB in the first place was at the behest of my ex. Once she made her first post to my wall after the breakup, I simply never logged back onto the site. No blocking, no deleting, no signing-on! I figure that way, if I ever get over her, when I go back onto FB all my old friends -- and the dozen or so friend requests -- will still be there. I didn't go to facebook that much before my ex, it was him who lived that facebook life and he still does. I didn't like it, but I knew if I would write him there he would sooner or later answer. I deleted temporarily so I will maybe return to it later, now it's so good feeling to wake up and not to open my facebook like the first thing .
Author Coffee20 Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 . Now it's coming up on a year that I haven't been his gf. To be honest, I don't know if I ever was. I have the same feeling, really exactly the same feeling. but congratulations on achieving one year!
Author Coffee20 Posted June 16, 2012 Author Posted June 16, 2012 That is a huge red flag by the way. And a good move to get rid of your FB, for the time being. yes I realized it last time when we were together as gf and bf, he came from his trip and gave me this present and told me this. It sounded so stupid, I wanted to return to him that present immediately.
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