Has anyone gotten back with ex after LONG breakup apart?? DO TELL!

[scubaskunk]

Alright,

Has anyone on these boards ever broken with with their boyfriend/girlfriend and did the no contact for more that 6 months?? Because I am hearing things like 5 days 1 week. What about the REAL love that took months and months to realize that you two wanted to be together and now you are after a long time apart. tell me about that...

[Caveman]

My ex dumped me in Nov of 2002 and came back to me in Feb 2003...she dumped me again May 2004...

[GIZMO]

One could only hope. I pray that one day my ec and I will be able to forgive one another and get back together... We broke up in Aug of 2003... We still talk, but I don't know if we will ever get back together and I don't know if I could ever trust him again to get back togther..

Don't wait around for your wcl go out and see other people... Trust me on that..

If you and your ex are meant to be togther, then it will happen, but right now, go out and find yourself a good toy and get your mind off him..; Trust me, I know how you feel.. I promise

[Debster]

I had a relationship where we broke up for two months and got back together. Then broke up for about nine months and got back together.

I wouldn't say it was love that got us coming back together, I think it was more lust and loneliness. IMO, true love doesn't need a break.

[meanttolive4ever]

Originally posted by GIZMO

One could only hope. I pray that one day my ec and I will be able to forgive one another and get back together... We broke up in Aug of 2003... We still talk, but I don't know if we will ever get back together and I don't know if I could ever trust him again to get back togther..

Don't wait around for your wcl go out and see other people... Trust me on that..

If you and your ex are meant to be togther, then it will happen, but right now, go out and find yourself a good toy and get your mind off him..; Trust me, I know how you feel.. I promise

thats what i did i went out and found other people to pass the time with...its worked some..but i still think about him all the time. I dont know whats to come of this and i dont know how much longer it will be til he comes back cause i know he will.

[thecake]

true love doesn't need a break.

[meanttolive4ever]

Originally posted by thecake

true love doesn't need a break.

 

why wouldnt it need time? dont you think you would need time apart to see if that person was really your true love?

[Debster]

Nope, if you both are REALLY in love - you don't need a break.

As annoying as it is to hear - when you are really in love, you just know.

You don't question it.

[CurlyIam]

This is only the image of what we think "true love" is... Have you ever felt it? Can any of you define it? IMO instead of trying to compare what we have to something we can't even see, feel or deine, we should make the best of what we have: follow our instincts, trust, love with all our heart and hope for reciprocity.

 

Some need space, other need time, other don't need anyone. It depends from person to pearson from relationship to relationship.

 

 

I don't usually agree with making pause, but once I have taken one only to come back and love harder.. Maybe it was not "true love", but I was happy, even though it ended years later. Just try to give your nest shot and don't deny what you're feeling only because it doesn't fit your image about love.

[meanttolive4ever]

Originally posted by CurlyIam

This is only the image of what we think "true love" is... Have you ever felt it? Can any of you define it? IMO instead of trying to compare what we have to something we can't even see, feel or deine, we should make the best of what we have: follow our instincts, trust, love with all our heart and hope for reciprocity.

 

Some need space, other need time, other don't need anyone. It depends from person to pearson from relationship to relationship.

 

 

I don't usually agree with making pause, but once I have taken one only to come back and love harder.. Maybe it was not "true love", but I was happy, even though it ended years later. Just try to give your nest shot and don't deny what you're feeling only because it doesn't fit your image about love.

 

so you're saying that if we truly feel that we love our exes or the ones we are with that we should tell them how we feel...even if it means that we'll get rejected anyway? or what do you mean?

[Kate]

hey, if they are your ex, you already lost right? what else do you have to lose?

[Alegria]

a couple of years ago, my boyfriend at the time dumped me. i was devastated, and i went from guy to guy hoping one of them would make me forget about my ex-boyfriend. almost every week, we would bump into each other and every time i would feel that i still loved him. after about one year, i realised that i couldn't forget him and i decided to tell him. when i did, he told me that he also still loved me. unfortunately, it wasn't a happy ending since i had to leave the country. personally, i think it wasn't only due to that but also to the fact that we had been apart for a whole year and we had changed a lot.

so, if you want to get back together with him, tell him. if it's meant to be, it'll work out just fine. and even if he doesn't want the same, at least you will know for sure and then you can move on.

 

best of luck.

[meanttolive4ever]

Originally posted by Alegria

a couple of years ago, my boyfriend at the time dumped me. i was devastated, and i went from guy to guy hoping one of them would make me forget about my ex-boyfriend. almost every week, we would bump into each other and every time i would feel that i still loved him. after about one year, i realised that i couldn't forget him and i decided to tell him. when i did, he told me that he also still loved me. unfortunately, it wasn't a happy ending since i had to leave the country. personally, i think it wasn't only due to that but also to the fact that we had been apart for a whole year and we had changed a lot.

so, if you want to get back together with him, tell him. if it's meant to be, it'll work out just fine. and even if he doesn't want the same, at least you will know for sure and then you can move on.

 

best of luck.

 

 

i dont want to tell him cause i know he'll be likea "yea right " blah blah blah...and i dont feel like putting up with his one word answers...so im just going to sit abck and jus let it ride out...if he really loves me he'll come back around...maybe he's testing out the waters or something....or maybe he's just getting it out of his system so he can settle down somewhere...hell i dont know

[CurlyIam]

Meattoleave, don't ever give up on a fight because the chances of winning are slim! Think well and hard if it's him you want or if it's the idea of a couple you are attracted to. If you do want him, gather all your courage, invite him to have a cup of coffee with you and gently break it to him. What you feel, what you think, what you wish... it will make you feel much better for you have tried. You have proved courage! So many people aren't capable of it...

 

 

And then there's him. Maybe he's afraid too. MAybe he's vulnerable too.

 

You don't have to pour it all in his face, but do it gently, to see how he takes it and for you not to get too hurt.. Hey, it's only your chance to be happy. Are you willing to let it fly? So many things can go bad: timing, feelings, other people. Do it now,regardless!

[miggsbucks]

This is going back a long long time, so don't ask me for further details, as its a bit cloudy now. I went out with this girl from January got dumped at the end of May, and we did no contact. Out of curiosity, i contacted her in August, and we started being friends again, and we got back together in mid-september. We lasted another 20 months before i was dumped for good.

[liberty66]

My ex-husband dumped me in April of 2002. We started sleeping together a couple weeks ago (my idea to use each other for sex and he jumped at the chance), but there is no relationship and I've no idea if it's headed anywhere. In fact, we were barely talking one month ago and it didn't take us long to hop into bed. What does that mean? I'm also not sure if I want it to go anywhere, but I do like playing the game, and it's one I'd like to win since I was the dumpee. I also still have a lot of feelings for him and I'm guessing he's going through the same. If we were to reconcile, it would take a whole helluva lot of forgiveness, and I don't think either one of us are saintly enough to forgive like that. Personally I think the sex has helped us to get along better as parents. See my post under second chances.

[WB]

Well said CurlyIam. But what if I don't know if I want to get back together? Right now I'm sticking to NC even though my ex had made several gestures. It took me a year to sort of move on. (Still think about her everyday though.) I don't want to backtrack now.

[teressa0397]

can you love this person one after haveing an affair for 9 years;

[miggsbucks]

Why can't we all just forget our dumpers and move on!!! Its so much easier said than done isnt it? Liberty - I wish dumpees wouldnt try to turn the tables and call it all a game. Theres broken hearted people on this site here - its certainly not a game for them. its a living torture. Not that i'm having a go at you or anything, you do what makes you feel happy. But i think its a risky game youre playing there, you may get even more hurt than the first time round.