crazyaboutcrazy Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 (edited) Had a sudden realisation this morning, now that I'm seeing someone new and my ex suddenly decided she never wanted me to contact her again. We spent three months as 'friends', with a few near intimate moments while drinking, and it's clear to me now that I was accepting her invitations to dinner and going out as much to help myself through the seperation as it helped her. I dated three women without telling her and started sleeping with one a few weeks ago, and when she vanished from the face of the earth last weekend when I told her I had custody of my daughters again (and I'm assuming it was her excuse to start something with a new guy) it was still a sad moment to have total closure, but I feel like that time with her kept me feeling good enough to meet these others women instead of sitting around miserable. I miss her craziness now that she's gone for good, but I feel like being 'friends' helped me transition to being with new people. Time will tell how I feel in a month though. Edited June 15, 2012 by crazyaboutcrazy
blotter Posted June 15, 2012 Posted June 15, 2012 So you are already starting other relationships, before you even finish your last? No time to grieve? No time to heal? No time to yourself to reflect on your failed relationship? That sounds like a recipe for disaster.
Author crazyaboutcrazy Posted June 15, 2012 Author Posted June 15, 2012 So you are already starting other relationships, before you even finish your last? No time to grieve? No time to heal? No time to yourself to reflect on your failed relationship? That sounds like a recipe for disaster. I've been reflecting and healing since she moved out. We kept in contact during that period but it was clearly never going to reconcile. Getting my daughters back was the nail in the coffin, since she felt she was always going to be second best. I miss her but the relationship was toxic on a number of levels for both of us.
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