brosia Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Hello All Loveshakers I would really like some frank opinions on this: Had what I thought was a great first date with a guy I met online. He initiated the first date. We had dinner then a coffee then he walked me home. We got on really well, had similar interests, both like playing tennis and running, and he asked for a kiss at the end of the night. He commented that the kiss was great and that he enjoyed the date. Full of optimism I texted him later that evening to say I enjoyed the date too and suggested a second date to see a film we talked about on our date. He replied quickly and expressed that he wanted to see me again and would be free in two weeks (he did say he was busy with a new job at the moment). I texted back to say that I should also be free in two weeks time and was looking forward to seeing him again. No reply. It is now 11 days since our first date. Should I accept that maybe date no2 won't be happening as he hasn't contacted me? Or just sit tight and wait? Or even text him again- setting myself up for rejection? Help appreciated...
Author brosia Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 Oh and advice needed on: did I spoil my chances by texting him later that evening and suggesting another date? Did I come across as too keen?
TigerCub Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I think it was nice to text and say you enjoyed the date. Asking for the 2nd date maybe made him think you were too keen - so that's why he's not getting back to you so soon - to see if you would chase him and text again, etc... I say do not text him, if he's interested, he will get in touch with you. Also, he did say that he's going to be really busy - maybe he also wants to see how much you respect that bit of info. 1
Feelsgoodman Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Oh and advice needed on: did I spoil my chances by texting him later that evening and suggesting another date? Did I come across as too keen? Certainly not. If a guy is interested in you, he's not going to change his mind about you over something like that.
TigerCub Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 He's either married or playing the field. The 2 weeks thing does sound sketchy.
veggirl Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 How busy could you be? 2 weeks is way too long to space out a 1st and 2nd date--it's basically starting all over at square 1. I would always say it's a great idea to text after date 1 and say thanks again and that you had fun. That is what cues the guy to ask for date 2, unless he asked for date 2 on the date (which is ideal!). My bf asked for date 2 on the first date, and I still texted him afterwards to tell him I had fun again. So I think the post date text is pretty much always a go-to. I would NOT suggest a 2nd date in that text though. However if the guy is interested, it won't be "too much", so don't worry about that. I just don't ask guys out that early, personal preference. The fact that you did is not what did this in, I think he is just not interested in general. 11 days and no contact...don't initiate any, you already did.
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