RedFemale Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 No settling! Who is with me? I decided to hold out for the right girl - the one I will be into physically, intellectually and emotionally. Even if I end up with nothing, I think this is the right choice for me. I am done with dating losers.
snug.bunny Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Don't Settle For Anyone If you aren't looking for a serious committed relationship with someone you shouldn't be reading this article, however, if you are looking for a serious relationship then you have come to the right place for advice. There are lots of reasons why people settle in serious relationships. Typically some reasons could be for simply being convenient, fear of being alone or lonely, financially it is easier, for simply the wrong reasons, and the list goes on. Sometimes the person involved in the relationship really isn't sure what he or she actually wants which always hurts you and your partner in the long run. You must fully understand who you truly are as a person and figure out what your self worth is. Until you understand that concept fully you shouldn't be preceding into having a serious relationship with someone. Keep in mind everyone is different, some people need many years to figure out who they are and what they ultimately want in a serious relationship. Some people really don't need that much time to figure themselves out, it mainly depends on the people involved. Now realize it is perfectly okay for you and your partner to have doubts it's actual quite normal. Understand that we don't live in a perfect world and there are always various things that do not work out or go the way we would like it to. Make sure you and your partner discuss the doubts or issues you both have in the relationship. Speaking from personal experiences I can say that settling for someone you know in your heart you don't love or when you know in your heart you don't entirely want to be with is a complete waste of time. Think about it this way the time and feelings you invested could cost you in ultimately missing out on the right person for you. By just settling for someone who you know you don't really belong with cause will cause much pain and heartache at some point in your relationship. Here is how you know if your just settling for someone in a potential serious relationship. It is very simple and easy just ask yourself this question. "IS THERE ANYONE ELSE YOU COULD SEE YOURSELF WITH OR WANT TO BE WITH? If your answer is yes then your settling for a person who you shouldn't be with currently in your relationship. If the answer is no then you my friend are not settling in your relationship, Congratulations! Understand that people who settle in serious relationships usually are related to issues such as breakups, pain, heartache, (unhealthy) harmful relationships, potential divorce, and inadequate family backgrounds. People who don't settle and find someone they know they aren't settling for usually are related to a happy health relationships, love, strong healthy relationships, potential promising marriage, and a great family foundation. Some people think that they can change a person or be successful while still settling for someone in a serious relationship. I am very sorry to tell you it just will not work. It might work today maybe even tomorrow or even next year but eventually at some point the issues you avoided or had settled for will in the end destroy the relationship entirely. It isn't easy finding someone you know and feel you aren't just settling for actually it is quite hard but it is possible. Even though it is a difficult task just remember this saying because it is very true "Good things comes to those who wait". Not everyone is strong or have the discipline to wait for someone they know they are not settling for. Realize this, those who do settle will no doubt waste time and hurt themselves including the person they are currently with. Those who do find someone who they know they aren't just settling for and who they don't see another person that he or she would rather be with could mean ultimately endless amazing rewards. If you watch and ask the successful, happy couples who are in serious relationships, they will say without hesitation they never settled in their serious relationships with their significant other. Wouldn't you like to say that you found the person who you know your not just settling for too? I know I surely would. PS. This article was brought to you by **bleep bleep bleep**.com I am not the author of said article.
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