ajoy126 Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I was engaged to be married to my high school sweetheart. We had plans for me to move in eventually and everything. Around our two year anniversary he told me he couldn't be with me because of work and school. That he felt so very overwhelmed about it. I understood but most importantly I wanted him back. So I asked him are we never getting back together and he said yes that just now he needs to focus on those things. We had sex twice and then after that we haven't talked for a whole month. I found out from facebook that he made a new facebook and it said he was in a relationship with a girl that I caught him dirty texting to at the beginning of February. Which from their facebook he apparently was dating her around February the second, which is funny because we were still dating around that time. By the way, we broke up in March. Well anyway he been trying to get some sort of reaction out of me. So the ex I was telling you about came at my house at like 11:10pm last night. He didn't tell me ahead of time so it was a complete surprise. I didn't answer the door, so after awhile he just left. I mean I deleted my Facebook, blocked him on all the sites I had him added on, and gave all his stuff back. So I don't understand this at all. In march he added my cousin on Facebook, then april he texted me, then may he called, and now this! This is so confusing.
Author ajoy126 Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 Please help me understand, I am so confused. My heart is just blah right now
TaraMaiden Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Don't be confused. Just continue ignoring him. He's sending mixed messages, but you don't have to interpret them, other thn to know that he's trying to see whether your chain can still be yanked. Keep on doing what you're doing - and you're doing absolutely great, by the way. Good on you for not answering the door!
Author ajoy126 Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 Thank you I am really trying! When he texted me he asked me if I still lived with my grandma and that time he called me it was about a job. It was so random! I would be lying though if I said I didn't want to open that door.
TaraMaiden Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I totally get that. The big thing is - you didn't. Have you any idea how much willpower and strength that takes? A lot. But gather this comfort - the first step is always the hardest. After this, you'll realise, really, how easy it is, to simply be the stronger one, and refuse to play into the game any more. The first time may have been the hardest - but realising "OMG! I can actually do this!!" is extremely empowering... cool!
PinkFlowers Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 So are you over him?? Or do you still want him??
Author ajoy126 Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 I want to get over him, but he keeps popping up. All this happened this year, so I am still pretty early in the getting over part. I still hurt about everything and I am still confused. I guess apart of me just wonder why is he doing all this extra stuff if he was so eager to get me out of his life.
Author ajoy126 Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 By the way I emailed him and told him that I thought that was very a inappropriate thing to do. I told him that it was disrespectful toward his girlfriend to be at another girl's house that late at night. Whatever he needed to talk about could of been done at a more earlier time. I also told him that I preferred if he just leave me alone because what he did to me had hurt me.
TaraMaiden Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 To help yourself, read the Caliguy no Contact guide in my signature.... Please. but more importantly - do as it says. If you do, this won't be a problem to you, any more.
Author ajoy126 Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 Thank you again, I'm going to read that right now
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