aevf39 Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 okay.. so basically i have been in a relationship with this one guy for two years. this year has been our hardest and were on and off for the first time between feb. and april. we were broken up for the entire month of march. basically, we were not together because i got overly emotional and relied on him too much despite the fact that he lives 5 hours away. i stopped working on myself if that makes sense. so the breaking point was when i looked through is phone because of something i saw on facebook because i thought he was cheating. after not being together a month he texted me and wanted to get back together.. so we did. but he says he wont re-friend me on fb until he feels comfortable. what is bothering me is that now he works outside with kids for 12 hours a day and i get that hes tired, but now our relationship is in a weird place. we text back and forth (only like 5 texts each) and talk on the phone once for 5-15 min. sometimes longer, but thats rare. its been three months of no problems for the most part and he still doesnt trust me. he wont friend/unblock me on facebook, which i was going to address when i visited next weekend, but now i feel uncomfortable with the entire relationship. since he started his summer job, we talk less. and when we do talk its always on his time frame. i always call first around the same time, but now he never answers. it can take him anywhere from 5 min to an hour to call me back. now i feel uncomfortable because i ignored and unimportant if that makes sense? probably also because before we broke up we spoke every night. now we talk earlier and he just texts me goodnight? also, he hasnt been as open as he used to be. he doesnt always explain things to me that are going on in his life if that makes sense? maybe its just the timing. like i asked if his friend was staying with him, but his friend was with him and he said he didnt want to talk about it. i have been really good about not being anxious/emotional, so i dont get why he doesnt completely trust me? i dont know if i am being completely insane and the combination of my stressful life and this is making me overthink things?
justwhoiam Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 I don't know what happened and if things are back to normal now... but from what you said things were going smooth just because you were keeping yourself from making any fuss. That doesn't mean that the issue is over. I can relate to the way you feel now. I guess your bf is taking it slow with you and annoyed by that kind of behavior. And not trying to solve the matter. I hope things got better anyway.
TMichaels Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 i have been really good about not being anxious/emotional, so i dont get why he doesnt completely trust me? Because for whatever reason, he doesn't want you to know his business. Maybe he's a more private person than you, or maybe he's hiding something. The real question in your mind should be, why are you wasting any more of your time on someone who thinks so little of you and your feelings? Best, TMichaels
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