SamBob Posted June 30, 2004 Posted June 30, 2004 my boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 6months, and I guess he has feelings for his first love still.. But, he knows he can't go back to her, because she always slept around whilst they went out.. Last night he came home all upset, because she started telling him how he needed to cut his hair, how fat and ugly he was(which infact, he's not fat or ugly), and how she'll never compliment him because they're just "friends" now(He works for her father, so he has to work at her house).. I guess she also showed her stash of condoms to him, and started talking about how where she had sex with her boyfriends.. He also whines about how he wants other girls to think he's attractive and etc.. Ugh.. there's so many problems with us, I don't know where to start.. so i'll just start with our recent problem.. A friend of mine referred me here, and told me to try it out, so here I am. heh.. Arg..
lydiamarie Posted July 2, 2004 Posted July 2, 2004 he doesn't need to hear things like that all the time. it sounds like his ex is a miserable b!tch and he's better off without her. i think he would do well to find another job.
Author SamBob Posted July 2, 2004 Author Posted July 2, 2004 he doesn't need to hear things like that all the time. yeah, it's just weird, because he thinks noone's interested in him, when infact every girl he's met has fallen inlove with him.. and all the guys are jealous of him being so "sexy". it sounds like his ex is a miserable b!tch and he's better off without her yeah, he knows that. he just gets scared that she'll try something to get him back or something. i think he would do well to find another job. yessum. he's been doing better. everytime he hears her whine about idiotic and mornic things, he just ignores her.
lydiamarie Posted July 2, 2004 Posted July 2, 2004 i'm glad to hear it's getting better. just keep loving him and telling him how sexy he is. it wouldn't hurt to help him feel sexy too
pinklove Posted July 3, 2004 Posted July 3, 2004 Reassure ur man, why u fell in love with him??? Who cares what someone else thinks????
Suzi Posted July 3, 2004 Posted July 3, 2004 Originally posted by SamBob I guess she also showed her stash of condoms to him, and started talking about how where she had sex with her boyfriends.. She is really a "bitch" and it would be the best if your boyfriend won't contact her at all. Ex's are pain! I am happily married and my husband is far away...We talk every day for hours. Our hope is that we will be together in one year...[long story]...I don’t really like when he contacts his ex, he doesn’t do it very often though, only if he has too. He has kids with her, they were married 10 years and she is a "bitch" too! Well we all are, aren't we? When I left my ex boyfriend he had hard time… finally, he met a girl, they had a long distance relationship too. We stayed “friends” and every time we met I liked to feel that he “still loves” me...stupid but true...I am glad his gf was strong! She “forbade our friendship”...things became easier for him and for me...I hope they are happy now, and before every time we met he was crying at the end...and I was happily in love with my bf, now hubby...
Author SamBob Posted July 3, 2004 Author Posted July 3, 2004 Yeah, I have no idea why he even contacts her. I guess he just thinks he can help her stop being such a whore, not that it really worked when he tried.
Suzi Posted July 3, 2004 Posted July 3, 2004 Originally posted by SamBob Yeah, I have no idea why he even contacts her. I guess he just thinks he can help her stop being such a whore, not that it really worked when he tried. Don’t let her to make dark any of your or your bf’s day. Never argue with him about it, even don’t be upset about. Try to understand him and treat him like he is a child, as men are children when things come to “bitches”. Just help him to see things with women eyes. Like tell him that “women never say what they really mean”. When his first love tells him he looks bad, she just want to hurt him, to make sure her words still matter for him. And she does it not because she loves or even likes him, but her self ego doesn’t let her quiet to think that she lost a great mans love and that he is now happy with someone else. Don’t worry about, be patient and diplomatic. Tell him that she would never say something like that again if he had answered something like: I don’t care what you think anymore. I have met a wonderful woman and it is only her opinion that I care about. I am sure you will handle this. Sorry for my English, I have hard time to express my thoughts in English. Good luck.
Author SamBob Posted July 3, 2004 Author Posted July 3, 2004 Just help him to see things with women eyes. Like tell him that “women never say what they really mean” Yes, whenever he talked about her or whatever she said to him, I told him that, he didn't listen too well though. He was still upset aout it. blah and thank you for all the help^_^ very helpfull.
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