SeeyaA Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Hey I'm new to this forum but would like to get involved and get some advice as well. Like most here I'm coming off a tough break up. My girlfriend broke up with me roughly 8 months ago (WOW!). We were in grad school together and at first things weren't serious but then went serious after a while. She'd always ask if we had a shot at marriage and I wanted to believe we did but I guess my actions weren't inspiring because after close to 2 years together she broke up with me. I was from another country and the threat of me moving away was always there but I wanted to stay for her. Before I left, mostly because of our break up, she called me over to her place to make love one last time and to give me a letter she wrote. It was the most emotional letter I've read, her saying how she still loved me despite our break up and she even said that in the future she hoped things would work out for us. I showed it to my friends and family when I arrived back in my home country and I still read it to this day. I've found it hard moving on, even before leaving, and when we talked on Facebook it always felt like I was trying to convince her to get back together again and I'd feel deflated when she would say no. I just don't get what anything meant and these days even though I don't talk to her like I want us back together she still talks to me like it's a chore. I unfriended her on Facebook with barely any emotion registering from her. She seemed more relieved. I feel like ****.
Philosoraptor Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 It probably was a relief to her as she is in the process of trying to move on. Breaking up hurts both parties and when the contact stops it is usually easiest to focus on ourselves. I'd say to put that letter away though as you are just continuing to cause yourself unnecessary pain every time you look at it.
flitzanu Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 i'm with raptor. just because someone pours out their heart on paper doesn't mean they want to be WITH you. i wouldn't say that she didn't feel those things, but her actions certainly show that she doesn't feel them ANYMORE.
LovelyDaze Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 To be honest, it sounds like that she is trying to keep you as a "emergency glass case" if she doesn't find anybody else whenever she gets lonely. She KNOWS you will easily take her back in a heartbeat. Don't torture yourself with this violent tug & push at your emotions. Keep her "defriended" and work on healing b not contacting her or accepting any miserable morsels she throws at you.
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