talespinner77 Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I was never stable as a child, so I figured I have moved about 33 times in my 34 years on this planet. I am currently in a commited relationship and we live together. My boyfriend wants to buy a house, and this frightens me so much. He has given me the option to be on the loan if I choose but considering we have only been together a year, that scares me. My mother thinks though that it may be a good thing for me to commit (with proper contracts written up), just to possibly break me of this nomadic life I have. He has a daughter and we have bonded like crazy, and for some reason, I see myself with him years down the road, I can't explain it. But there is this deeply engrained subconsious fear of staying in one spot. I have been married for actually 10 years, he and I are both divorced and in no hurry to get married or even engaged, we have a very trusting, open relationship, and are friends first. Even in my 10 years married we never bought a house. I can't decide if I me being not happy my whole life is driving these urges or it's just what I have always done? Even though I am tired of moving, tried of wandering and know that I need to stop running at some point, I still have the urge. Ugggggg.
SoMovinOn Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I had always been rather nomadic. Got married, bought a house ... been here 13 years, and now I feel *so* trapped. The housing market sucks so I don't have the option to sell and get out of here (well, not without losing a ton of money). I wish I had never bought this house. It's hard to change what you are. On the flip side, sometimes you get that wanderlust out of your system and all you want to do is settle in to one spot. There's no way of knowing if it will stay that way or not. Go with your heart, go with your gut ... do what feels right to you now. 1
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