stlflm84 Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 So my story is this. I'm 28 and have been dating this guy for 2 years. I care deeply about him, almost to the point of love. almost...we have had our fair share of arguments, we don't live together, but he gets upset when i try to go back to my place or spend time to myself. personally as i have said i care deeply about him, but not sure about our future. we have talked about it before, but just went right back to dating.we have not had sex in a year. i have had a feeling that i need to leave him in order to better my life, yet i sort of pitty him. I feel that he treats me like ****, but he calls me names. First thing in the morning he wants me to make the coffee, fill and refill when he asks, has me get his laptop for him or his cord. has asked me to throw his scrubs in the laundry for him. he just lost his job. why do i feel like i can't let him go? not only how do i bring up the fact that i think we need to break up? he seems a little clingy.i find myself wanting to spend more and more time away from him.
Chi townD Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Sometimes relationships just run it's course. The question for you is do you want the band-aid to come off quickly or slowly.
Philosoraptor Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Breaking up is hard to do but it's often very necessary. Look at your situation. You're with someone you don't love who is overly controlling and needy, yet you feel like you need to take care of him. I was with someone like this in the past and I can tell you that it is not your job to take care of him no matter how much you feel the desire to do so. When you walk away you might feel a bit guilty for not being there for them, but you will have a huge weight lifted off of your chest.
PinkFlowers Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 So my story is this. I'm 28 and have been dating this guy for 2 years. I care deeply about him, almost to the point of love. almost...we have had our fair share of arguments, we don't live together, but he gets upset when i try to go back to my place or spend time to myself. personally as i have said i care deeply about him, but not sure about our future. we have talked about it before, but just went right back to dating.we have not had sex in a year. i have had a feeling that i need to leave him in order to better my life, yet i sort of pitty him. I feel that he treats me like ****, but he calls me names. First thing in the morning he wants me to make the coffee, fill and refill when he asks, has me get his laptop for him or his cord. has asked me to throw his scrubs in the laundry for him. he just lost his job. why do i feel like i can't let him go? not only how do i bring up the fact that i think we need to break up? he seems a little clingy.i find myself wanting to spend more and more time away from him. I understand about the part when he asks you to do the little things he can do himself,, my bf does that, I was told that I shouldn't have to take care of a grown man. He is not a child so let him be a man. Breaking up is hard. I'm trying to find the right time to do it but I think you shouldn't wait! He need to man up!
Tiera D Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 you could tell him before you dump him?give him a last chance maybe,atleast he did not cheat or anything,i hope you give him an opportunity to improve.Because i personally do not think its such a horrible situation that you should breakup,however if he still doesnt change il support breakup.Sorry but i dont agree with other posters on this one TD
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