momo81 Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 Hi all In a bit of a pickle and just need advice... :-) My boyfriend and I have been exclusive for three Months and have been dating since October last year. He Moved to another city to undertake university and I moved two months later to be closer to him. He has just finished his learning experience and his associate teacher completed his appraisal. It wasn't his best work and the university failed him. Meaning, kicked off the course. Without going into too much detail, the decision seems to be way too harsh. He appealed it with several other fellow students in the same boat. His appeal was rejected. We are still going ahead and continuing to fight it futher. Anyways, he's got exams this week so Is continuing to sit them as advised by the university union as he doesn't know the final outcome of recent appeal get. My boyf made a comment about contacting the universities from our old city to see if he would be able to enrol next semester to carry on the paper??? I support him and believe in him but it was a shock to hear that in three weeks could be Moving back and I'm not even in the equation. I didn't know what to say but do what makes you happy and what it takes to pass. He told me not to fret as he doesn't know what he's going to do, but the thought of losing him hurts my heart so much. Do I just stand by him and watch this happen or do I ask "what about us?"
ALoveStudent Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 This is a tough situation to be in, I can only imagine how you're feeling =\.. You moving out to see him was a big investment on your part, and it only seems fair that at this point you should know where things between you guys are going at this point. With that said, if he genuinely cares about you and the relationship, he should not have a problem with you bringing up the subject. As far as what he decides to do, that is up to him, and whether or not you can deal with that and are willing to invest more of yourself if he does decide to move again, is completely up to you. I hope this helps...
utterer of lies Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 My boyf made a comment about contacting the universities from our old city to see if he would be able to enrol next semester to carry on the paper??? I support him and believe in him but it was a shock to hear that in three weeks could be Moving back and I'm not even in the equation. I didn't know what to say but do what makes you happy and what it takes to pass. He told me not to fret as he doesn't know what he's going to do, but the thought of losing him hurts my heart so much. Do I just stand by him and watch this happen or do I ask "what about us?" It's good that he puts his career first. If you are important enough to him and he is important enough to you, you will find a solution (you moving together, or moving to the old place, or whatever). And if not - well, better to find out sooner than later.
Author momo81 Posted June 14, 2012 Author Posted June 14, 2012 Thank You for your replies. Much appreciated
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I think you made a grave mistake without knowing where this relationship is going...you're obviously into this guy a lot but chances are you don't really know him well at all. Why would you stand by a guy you've known for 3 mons and follow him to a a city that he's not even settled into yet? and not even with him? Nevermind...you're going to learn, unfortunately the hard way...you better be sure this guy is into you and feels the same way If you've got a fighting chance...you're acting like just another piece of luggage he's carrying around.
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