lovinglife21 Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 So my ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago now. I've been trying to sort out all of the practical stuff out but he won't do anything and I have to keep phoning him for him to do ****!!!! It's so ****ing annoying. Why won't he take any responsibility for his ****?! Its so ****ing frustrating. I asked him to close the joint account last week and he has STILL failed to do it, so I had to phone him again and ask him to do it. Why not just do it like a freaking grown up. I am so annoyed that I have to be the responsible one, and he just sits there when I sort out all this ****. I've had enough of this. And today he acted like me contacting him was this big hassle and I was doing it for some alterior motive. The ****ing audacity. I am so angry. Not only that he can;t even keep his finances straight enough to pay me the money he owes me, it's ****ing ridiculous. Why is he making this harder than this has to be?
SerCay Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 So my ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago now. I've been trying to sort out all of the practical stuff out but he won't do anything and I have to keep phoning him for him to do ****!!!! It's so ****ing annoying. Why won't he take any responsibility for his ****?! Its so ****ing frustrating. I asked him to close the joint account last week and he has STILL failed to do it, so I had to phone him again and ask him to do it. Why not just do it like a freaking grown up. I am so annoyed that I have to be the responsible one, and he just sits there when I sort out all this ****. I've had enough of this. And today he acted like me contacting him was this big hassle and I was doing it for some alterior motive. The ****ing audacity. I am so angry. Not only that he can;t even keep his finances straight enough to pay me the money he owes me, it's ****ing ridiculous. Why is he making this harder than this has to be? Maybe he was bluffing when he broke up with you? hoping you would come back asking him to not dump you? Is it possible he's not taking care of these things because he hopes you will come back asking him to get together again?
Author lovinglife21 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 No, he's treated me like **** since we broke up, like he hates my guts. He knows I would have come back if he's of asked, up until a certain point anyway. Part of me thinks he's being like this just to try and hurt me more.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 No, he's treated me like **** since we broke up, like he hates my guts. He knows I would have come back if he's of asked, up until a certain point anyway. Part of me thinks he's being like this just to try and hurt me more. Just so you know, you are not getting the money he owes you. So if you want him out of your life, thats what its going to cost to get him off your back, or you off his.
Author lovinglife21 Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Yeah I'm starting to think that I just need to let it go. I don't want him back, and all it does is annoy me to talk to him, and no amount of money is worth backtracking on my recovery for.
Renard99 Posted June 14, 2012 Posted June 14, 2012 I think you just need to accept that you're going to have to do a lot to finally tie up all the loose ends. I had to do the same thing. My ex was the one that left me but she was really slow to do anything regarding our joint finances etc, so it was all left to me. With regards to closing the joint account, I was able to do that one my own without her. They said all I needed to do was bring in all the cards + cheque books etc. I gave them mine and told them my ex had already shredded hers during the break up. They accepted that and closed the account. They then contacted her directly to tell her it's been closed so I didn't have to deal with her as much as I would have. With regards to the money, I think you just have to accept that it's gone. As you say, it's quite literally the price you'll ave to pay. The only other alternative is to leave it a while, then mail him simply stating, 'have you got the money you owe me?', nothing more. If he mails you back saying anything other than what you want to hear (i.e 'yes, sending it to you now'), ignore him and don't reply, then leave it a while and mail him asking the same thing. I know it prolongs the contact but if you can distance yourself from it all and keep doing it you'll have one of two responses: He'll get so fed up of hearing from you about the money that he'll pay up just to get you off your back (which is what happened with me and my ex) or, he'll just block you and you'll at least be able to accept that both he, and your money, are gone.
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