rhoda Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 I recently started things up with my ex from 4 yrs ago, we where in our 20s not ready to settle down but we loved each other. Unfortunately when we loved we loved deeply and when we fought we could really hurt each other. Ultimately we broke up but stayed friends , we spoke all the time phone calls, emails etc. He always tried to get us back together but I started dating other people & with time so did he. Last weekend we shared what we have been up to the last couple years, our dating lives that is. He then dropped a bombshell on me, about 2.5 yrs ago he was overseas on a non profit thing he does and he met a girl. She was 27, a grad student, virgin and could be mother Theresa' s little sister. Anyway he was her first, they were in love and dated for almost a year. Things went south when they got back she wanted to move in, get married and I can totally understand. He claims he wasn't ready but she was an amazing person. Believe it or not he proceeded to Google her for me, showed me her work & pics etc. Being the supportive friend lol I sat there whilst he went on about how amazing she is & shared some of their stories ( men have no clue). At that moment my relationship with him changed, first it bothers me why I never knew anything about her, he claims he has no feelings for her which I don't believe and finally I want my boyfriend to wax poetic about me not some other women. Am I being insecure or what
Eddie Edirol Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Yeah you are. he is with you now, and as much as you'd like him to "wax poetic" about you, thats not what you asked. So if you dont want to know about his dating life, you shouldnt have asked.
Author rhoda Posted June 13, 2012 Author Posted June 13, 2012 Eddie I didn't ask lol ,if anything he asked about my exes. But still I thought we were friends back then why didn't he tell me and if she is so amazing why isn't he with her. Believe me I don't mind exes being good people but would like your significant other getting all dreamy about their ex, I don't know. Maybe u right I am just being insecure. Strangely enough its bothered me to a point where I think we should just be friends and he is mad coz he thinks he shouldnt have given all the details.
Eddie Edirol Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 Well I would hope that youre not insecure. Because if not, then I sense your womans intuition is saying that he talks about her more than he does about you. if thats the case, then you have a problem.
eleanorhurting Posted June 13, 2012 Posted June 13, 2012 this sounds like something that would happen to me and would bother me so much. But I think I am insecure about exes and just wish they would not exist. Be careful but don't hold it against him
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